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Is it normal to feel like this

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Babymaybe1 · 22/09/2023 20:57

My husband and I both want children we have been not using contraceptive for over a year and a half maybe two. I’ve got endometriosis and may possibly struggle to conceive. We both said early ok if I get pregnant I get pregnant but we weren’t both actively trying and also wanted to move before. We also thought it may take longer. The issue I have is although we both made it clear we were just going with the flow as time has gone on I’m getting more upset/ concerned that I can’t get pregnant. The doctor is aware that we are technically trying as I declined the pill to help my endometriosis. Every month when my period comes I get upset by myself. My partner is very relaxed about it and says things like it will happen and he’s really understanding to a point but as a man he’s not the one with the problem of not getting pregnant. Every month my periods are awfuly heavy and painful and it’s a reminder. I was trying to track my ovulation the last few months but I stopped as I was getting obsessed. I’m guessing I should go back to the doctor and speak to them. I’m also in so much pain and stuff with my periods but I’m at a loss of how to carry on with out contraception I currently take a whole list of medications to help.

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Freezingcoldinseptember · 22/09/2023 20:59

Getting pregnant is a joint effort though op! Sharing the worry is as important as sharing the joy in a decent marriage!!

Flowersandfloral · 22/09/2023 21:19

It took us 18 months TTC. I completely get why you become increasingly upset each month, it became soul destroying. My DH always just reminded me that we hadn't really been "trying" the whole time, but I kept on become distraught each time AF came. I kept trying to relax about it each cycle, but it is so much easier said than done!

Definitely go back to your doctors. They should be able to send you for more tests and maybe refer you for some extra help.

Babymaybe1 · 23/09/2023 00:57

Yes I know that and so does he but he’s just not worried at the moment he just thinks it will happen when the time comes and we just need to wait. He does comfort me etc but he doesn’t see why I’m worrying so much.

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