Neighbours weird gf

[Ayshxox]

My neighbours gf recently moved in, I’m pretty sure she is unemployed as she is always home and only time she leaves the flat is when he gets home. Before she moved in, he was quiet, never heard a peep. Now they blast music and tv to the point I can hear word for word. Whenever she hears me come home and close my front door she blasts music, she’s always talking extremely loud. Goes out clubbing, at 4am is shouting in the streets so loud it wakes me up.

I want to go to her and ask her issue with me but I don’t want bad blood between me and my neighbour

Why do you think it’s aimed at you. I think you missed that out.

I’m not too sure, I mind my business, go to work, gym etc and I don’t think it’s a coincidence after 5 mins of entering my home the music always starts. I feel like it’s targeted towards me.

You’re hot and she’s not?

sorry probably a bad way of wording it but perhaps there’s some jealousy on her part?

I have an extremely loud talking friend, turns out she needed hearing aids & had no idea how loud she was

So you don’t know if the noise happens when you’re out?

she may have a hearing problem. I very much doubt it’s about you.

She is very pretty in my opinion but I guess abit overweight and me I’m just average but my physique i take extreme care of

I honestly don’t think she does but that could be a possibility . I have a door camera and i tend to listen in and it’s silent when I’m not home.

I hope none of this is targeted at me as all I want is a peaceful life 😕

Why on earth would it be personal? You notice it when you're home because you're home. You wouldn't hear her at all otherwise 🤣 'you probably think this song is about you don't you don't you' 🎤

Then just knock politely and ask for it to be turned down. Be nice. There is no reason to assume it’s a personal vendetta.

No not atall as I said I have a door camera and listen in, and I’ve also asked my other neighbours if the loud music is played whilst I’m not home and they’ve said it isn’t.

You’re right, thankyou

She's playing the music to cover your noise? Maybe you have really bad soundproofing between your home's.

Have you ever spoken to her and introduced yourself/ said hello?

If you try and have a brief friendly initial conversation with her in time you might feel more able to ask them politely to keep it down.

If she moved in pretty recently, she might be struggling adapting to living in a new area. Maybe she's going through something and her mh is not so good right now.

I would try and initiate a friendly chat- just a brief how are you is enough. You don't need to become her best friend, just communicate that you're a nice person and that you're cool if she is. Until you speak to someone it's impossible for them to feel relaxed or trust you/ that you're not a b*tch who has taken against her.Sometimes as women we feel weird around each other and need someone to break the ice.

If that doesn't work, at least you tried. whatever is going on, it's probably not to do with you at all, and will probably settle once she's lived there a while.