How to move past injustice?

[LucyL93]

I was treated very badly by someone a few years ago, when I was at my most vulnerable. It was their job to help me. I trusted them completely and I feel that they completely abused this. This person is very powerful and it seems knows they can do what they want.
I tried to raise it through the proper channels but I’m not convinced anything came of it. I heard from others the behaviour has continued anyway. They are getting away with awful things.
I go through phases of feeling nothing about it, but then it all comes back.
I know their behaviour is not my responsibility to carry, but I can’t seem to get past this. Do people always get their comeuppance?
My question is how do you find a way to get past this, the hurt and the anger. The unfairness of it all.

Yes they do ....:but it will taste like Ash.

Go live your Best Life!

Then everything else will fade into the background.

Sometimes easier said than done

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I like your thinking!

Thanks for your response. But what do you mean it will taste like ash?

Tastes like ash……. In my case after ex dumped me - and then he was almost immediately in a relationship with someone else, I was pretty gutted.
I was left miserable and a single parent, while he just sailed off into the sunset with another woman. (The ow - exit affairs).
Several years later (he was a work alcoholic ) his beloved business collapsed.
I should have been dancing with glee.
But I wasn’t I just felt very sorry for him.

I may have been very bitter at the beginning, but making my ex suffer doesn’t actually improve my life ….well maybe for a mili second…..and then it tastes like ash ……..I would never wish that on him.
so yes people usually get their just dessert but it doesn’t really make you feel any better…..

Ps . After 20 odd years the relationship broke down too..i by this time was very happily married and had another child.
I was very sad indeed when his relationship fell apart. I felt after 20 years together they had had something good and could have worked through it.

My faith gets me through. It's not for me to judge them (hard to do this obviously). They will face their comeuppance when they die. It's all that helps me as the people in positions of power who hurt me never faced consequences and continue to hurt others or have had success in life.

Another thing is they don't care about you or your feelings. They don't feel guilty. May not even remember most of the details. Likely they think they had a right/were entitled/you deserve it. They are not suffering for what happened and by holding onto it you keep yourself suffering.

I found group therapy helped.

Don't be stupid OP. Of course the company pretend it's perfectly legal but these actions can all build a harassment case against you and there will be a record of not only you purchasing it but also you discussing it on mumsnet. So while the glitter itself may be legal to post, the impact on the victim can be reported to the police and investigated.

To answer your original question, I've been in this position and EMDR therapy helped a lot. I didn't think it did anything at the time but I realised the nightmares had stopped and my dentist said my teeth grinding had improved. So while it didn't stop me thinking about the injustice, it made the feelings a lot less intense.