Ideas to be social

[lking12]

Hi all,

I work full time and have three children ages 6, 3 and 1. When the bedtime routine is easier for one of us to do alone I wanted an evening to do something social.

Ive arranged drinks with mum friends before but availability can be poor and we always just end up talking kids and school so it’s not really the fun break I’m looking for!

I live south east London, I did used to do rowing but it’s not feasible one night a week and I find other get fit classes aren’t actually sociable?
I’m looking for a bit of a break in the evening where I can do something and have a chat to people… but having to be in an evening is a bit restrictive.

I’ve seen a choir that might work but from
the pics it’s quite a lot of retired people. I might look up a book club but will probably struggle to find time to read!

So… any other ideas? Or where to start looking?

Why can’t you row one night a week? There should be social groups rather than competitive training squads.
running club?

I’ve asked the local rowing club and they don’t have a social “squad” except in the summer and then it tends to be ppl who have retired from rowing at that club and I haven’t towed there.
The other crews are competitive and train 6 days a week (which I obviously can’t do). That’s very common with rowing clubs tbh.

Oh that’s a shame, I used to row with one that had a “turn up and row” social night and we just filled boats with whoever was there…..some nights you’d end up coming and I learnt to skull that way too.

Oh yeah that sounds good! But no they didn’t have it… not sure if fancy it on a winter night either :D.

Ive looked at toastmasters which would also be handy for work but they start too early at 6:45pm, I’d need to go home first and at least start bedtime!
I’ve looked at Women’s institute but again seems to be an older clientele!

so a bit stuck really!

Do your local council do adult evening classes? Can you play a musical instrument? Or learn one?

Surely you have friends other than ‘mum friends’, though? Why not arrange to see your actual longer term friends who predate your having children, if what you want is a social evening?

It’s more an activity I can do weekly.
My friends that predate kids 1) now have young kids too and/or 2) live over an hour away. Possibly can meet in the middle but not weekly. I’d also prefer to drive in which is not really feasible to central London, I don’t feel safe walking/travelling alone late at night anymore (Sarah Everard, Sabina Nessa, Zara Aleena etc :( ).

I am learning piano alongside my 6 year old, but the teacher comes to our house….

I might just go for the choir seems easiest?!

It’s just now I’ve had my kids and I’m approaching 40 I just want my life to feel
a bit more balanced and do some things for me. At the moment my days are get the kids out, work, chores, get the kids back, dinner, kids bedtime, finish a bit of work, bed! It’s boring and a bit lonely. I have DP but we mostly wfh and there’s only so much we can say to each other. :D
We might get a dog when baby is sleeping better so then I’d go to training classes! But madness to get one now.