Good evening lovelies
AIBU?
Hubby 40th next week. His parents have booked a surprise and hired a cottage for us, our 3 kids.. lovely right? Dh doesn’t know yet, and won’t know until we get there. One problem, mum and father in law are coming, and sister in law and brother in law and his wife.
the issue is.. I really do not get on with mother and father in law. Like really don’t get on with them. They make my life difficult, undermine me as a mum (for example, I am strict ish with my kids consuming sweets, and if I tell them no, she will undermine me and give it to them behind my back and tell the children to keep it a secret.) They purposely make my life difficult and MIL was a cow to me during all 3 pregnancies. Father in law is an ex alcoholic with a horrible temper and a narcissist.
AIBU if I back out of this week away? It really is no good for my mental health and has been stressing me out for months. I can’t imagine anything worse than having to spend 5 days with them.
would it be unreasonable if I told DH I was unwell and sent him on his own?
I know it sounds harsh but the thought of being with MIL and FIL for 5 days is making me panic. Big time.
honest opinions and advice welcome
Marlie x