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Pregnancy Announcement

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BlueSelpress · 18/09/2023 10:12

So… My partner and I announced our pregnancy to the in laws last night. (I didn’t want to do it this weekend as I wanted to wait for scan which was the hospital postponed so we’re not at 13 weeks).

We did the announcement and the mil didn’t say a word, the smile was wiped off her face and she stared into space. My bil and sil both came running over to congratulate us. My partners sister (sil 1 and sil 2) only got up because my bil and sil were hugging us. After a few minutes of half of the family congratulations us the mil blew and said she’s know for a long time and that I’ve been to my side of the family and told them all and I haven’t bothered to tell her at all and my dad know and that he congratulated her (total lie - my dad doesn’t know a thing). I told her to be happy and I can assure her no one know another than my sister and sil 3 and she said so your sister is better than me that she should find out before me? Not mentioning that I’ve just told her that her daughter also knows.

She went on for ages, and my husband was felt very disappointed and left the room. She said some very nasty stuff about me and my family and how I’ve treated her badly. I’ve learnt her character and only have necessary conversations with her as I find her too much. She’s too loud and needs to be centre of attention a lot of the time. Her adult children have all blamed her menopause but I don’t as my mum was nothing like this and my work friends have who are also going through menopause say this is not anything to do with the menopause it’s her jealously. I’m not sure. But I’m getting quite upset and sad about this. This was meant to be a happy announcement and she ruined it but causing an issues.

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DappledThings · 18/09/2023 10:20

She was completely unreasonable in reacting like that and I'm not at all saying she doesn't owe you a massive apology. But I can also see why she was hurt you kept it a secret for so long from her but told other relatives.

She should have swallowed that hurt and completely not let it overshadow you making your announcement but I wouldn't say her internal feelings are unreasonable. Just that she communicated them.

BlueSelpress · 18/09/2023 10:33

So I haven’t actually gone out of my way to announce it to my sister or sil. They both guess and I said yes. Which I told regret as my sister has been my human pregnancy google - she’s been my go to person to ask questions as she’s had 3 kids.

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