Would you call this out?

[Spottywombat]

Saw a post by a woman setting up their own coaching business.

Liked what they do and wanted to support them, so asked if they thought coaching would benefit me even though I'm at a low level. Replied saying coaching benefits everyone, so sent more details.

Now saying they are not taking on clients. Wouldn't it have been more honest to say I'm not a good fit for her experience or something?

I've got adhd so I don't judge some things well. I sort of get that "meh, her business, her choice" is a prefectly good rational response but I hate the thought I think* she's lied to me. It's a real shame too, as I thought it would be interesting.

*possibly...

How do you know she is lying - is she still advertising?

I wouldn’t call it out, no, because they may genuinely not have room/space/time.

I understand where you’re coming from though, my sister has ADHD and she would absolutely overthink this to death.

Could just be that she's had interest from lots of people but doesn't have enough time to fit everyone in.

Shes then picked on the basis that x, y and z are likely to pay more and use her on an ongoing basis/got back to her first/whatever.

Don't worry about it, it's not a bad reflection on you.

You've no idea what happened. You've assumed this is about you, because of your insecurity about being more junior, but it's much more likely that something's changed in her life/work circumstances. She's given you a polite, professional response that I'd take at face value. There's plenty of other coaches out there who I'm sure would be more than happy to take your money to help you. Doing some work on not over-reacting would be a good start.

What does your 'call it out' look like?

Thanks, I am overthinking about this, I know, which is why it's in chat, just wanted to externalise my thinking in a fairly low key way. Plus a big dose of rejection sensitivity but also I think fairness as I do think people should be honest.

Ha, this is the work on over-reacting! Really helps to see situations from a top-down control model than the less helpful, missing a crucial bit of hardware, bottom-up control of my own brain. :-)

Bit sad too, I really enjoy coaching at a high level and would have been interested in the process and having run a small business for years, I empathised with her posts on finding the transition to FT coaching hard.

Thanks folks.

That has actually really helped! I will move on and shut up.

If anyone is interested in the missing bits of hardware...

Brain differences for ADHD