Falling asleep

[Rifalo]

Granted, sleep doesn't come easy to me at the best of times
But I am one of these who takes awhile to drop off anyway. You know, review the day in your head, think about what you need to do in the morning, take a good 15 min to find the right position of comfy. Then perhaps wait for the stars to align correctly before sleep ensues.
Anyway.....DH is the exact opposite. In an almost piss taking way. He's just come to bed, pulled the covers over himself and is already flat out. What is this sorcery???

LOL, I wish I knew. My partner is the same. Can do it in the day as well, like immediately nap and wake in ten mins. I wish. Neither of us usually sleep in the day but if I needed to because ill or something, it takes me an hour to go off, 2 hours of sleep because boy do I go deep if I do nap, and then groggy for another hour.

I've no time for all that obviously and it rarely happens, but him, I could really use his skill of ten mins out and then awake again.

I hope by now you are asleep and not reading this till morning, lol

Nah still awake. He's now snoring to add insult to injury.
It's so frustrating isn't it? Such an enviable life skill.

I am normally that "fall asleep within 2 minutes" sort (I am sorry about this already) but I do wake back up
But what helps, and it is quite a list

1. If I awake and then can't sleep. I get up. I maybe give it 10 mins or so just to prove I can't sleep (75% fall back asleep, 25% get up) then I set about my jobs for the day. Within an hour or so, I am normally tired, and go back to sleep, but at least it is not wasted time agonising about not sleeping
2. I always sleep somewhere different the second time. Sofa with soft light blanket and a hard cushion not a pillow under head, a different room/bed. What "wrongs" you the first time, will get you the second time too.
3. Get your sleeping environment right. Obvious ones are light in the room, OH in the room, noise, anything bipping (like phone) but smaller things too, I love fluffy PJs, cannot sleep in them though.
4. "Naice things" that make you comfortable. Lavender spray for pillow. I love my electric blanket on for 10 mins before retiring, comfortable bedding. Being the right temperature. I do think a hot milk /horlicks helps.
5. Read at bedtime. Doesn't matter what you read. In fact the more mindless, the better. I defy anyone to read for more than 20 minutes if they are properly tired.
6. Go to the loo immediately before bed, even if you do not need to go. If you wake up thinking you might want to go, then do not delay, just get it over with, otherwise it will defo keep you up.
7. Napping is fine. But keep them to less than an hour, ideally 30 mins, set your alarm.
8. Hard labour, fresh air and exercise helps if you can get it
9. Painkillers and those Herbal sleep remedies. Obviously no-one should be taking either regularly, but if you have something that is hurting you, then it figures you will not sleep well.
10. Booze (as above in 9), the problem is with booze is it causes 6) among other things.

Hopefully, you should have nodded off reading this lot. Best xx

I am the same. I shared hotel room with husband and 15 year old son. Amazed me how they could both drop off literally straight away and never woke all night. I took ages to get off, then up about 4 times. Ended up reading my kindle, having a shower to cool down. At home end up on sofa. Liking the tips @TheM55 .

I'm the same and my dh is the same as yours. (Hence me commenting at 3.30am!)

I joke that it's because he's got nothing on his conscience, led a blameless life. It's not a joke really though.

Eg I don't think he's ever replayed a conversation in his head in his life. Whereas I'm "bigmouth strikes again"

Have you tried listening to a guided mindfulness session on YouTube OP? I take ages to drift off but usually can’t make it to the end of one of those. Or white noise?

I shall take the tips on board. Only got 2 hours. Mind you I did get to watch a magnificent storm.