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Overthinking interactions with people

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GreyClouds101 · 17/09/2023 14:25

I realise I have some sort of an issue but I don't know how to fix it

I don't overthink every interaction I have but it's more when I think someone's been offended by me or I have annoyed someone. 2 examples below

I teams messaged my colleague about what time i'd go for lunch. She shouted across and said "I am here you know, you can just ask me in person" - I messaged as she was typing etc and I didn't want to interrupt her work especially regarding something minor. It has played on my mind and I laughed it off at the time, but I can't stop thinking about it. She is a lovely colleague and never rude so not sure why I got sensitive about it

Example 2

A client I was dealing with, started ringing up my colleague for updates even though I was already trying to resolve the issue and updated him throughout. I light heartedly said to my colleague "sorry about that! Not sure why he was ringing you constantly when I was already dealing with it and updated him" and she said "let me take a wild guess, maybe he didn't know you're sorting it out?" - this was a different colleague, again, not a mean/sarcastic or blunt person so I was taken aback (unreasonable of me)

It sounds pathetic but I can't stop thinking about it. I feel like I am far too sensitive, and anyone else wouldn't be bothered at all by the above.

There have been many times someone's said something to me and I just take offense easily. How can I just switch off and not care about stuff like this anymore?

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GreyClouds101 · 17/09/2023 14:32

Just to add, i'll then try to fix it which makes me look even more stupid. 3 hours after the 1st example I said to my colleague "sorry I just messaged as I didn't want to interrupt your work"

After the 2nd example I said an hour later "sorry I didn't mean to say what I did about the client, I just wasn't sure why he was ringing you up when I said i'm dealing with it"

And both times the colleagues laughed about it but i'm still thinking about it. I honestly feel like a weirdo especially when I try to fix it after

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emotionalpuddle · 17/09/2023 14:47

I'm the same, I'll witter about social interactions (even just passing ones) for weeks after.. and tie myself in knots worrying what's been said or taken the wrong way.. no advise how to stop doing it but thought I'd at least let you know you're not alone Flowers

GreyClouds101 · 17/09/2023 14:55

Thank you @emotionalpuddle it's an awful feeling isn't it? Wish I could be carefree. It's good to know i'm not the only one going through this. Thank you x

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