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Anyone else's mind do this?

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Stopwhine · 17/09/2023 11:54

I'll start by clarifying I've had mental health issues in the past but nothing completely debilitating.

Yesterday, I felt perhaps the happiest I've felt in a really long time. I'm finally taking control of my diet and finances, I've just got a promotion and while my relationship isn't perfect, we've both made a commitment to start working on it.

Had a drink last night which I know doesn't help but today my whole mood has plumetted. My friend stayed over last night and this morning I said to her 'do you ever feel like everything is absolutely fine but your mind is desperately looking for things to worry about?' She looked at me completely blankly and said, 'no not really.'

Not all that surprising as she is a very happy person but it did make me wonder if I'm in a minority on this one. It's a shame because if you really try, there's always some negative thing to fixate on.

If your mind is often on the look out for things to worry about, how do you cope with it?

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DustyLee123 · 17/09/2023 12:19

How old are you ? I seem to do this now I’m in peri.

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Stopwhine · 17/09/2023 14:18

@DustyLee123 I'm 31. To be honest, its something thats cropped up frequently for as long as I can remember. I remember being about 10 and my mum asked what I was thinking about and I said I was trying to remember the thing I was worrying about because I knew there was definitely something. Madness!

I must admit, even though I'm likely a way off from menopause, I dread to think what my mental health will be like when I get to that point. I hope you have managed to find coping mechanisms.

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solice84 · 17/09/2023 14:23

Yes I know exactly what you mean

TheShinmeister · 17/09/2023 14:24

Oh yes. We have had a really good week. That makes me worry all the more because I’m worried if I’m not worrying.

bulby · 17/09/2023 15:18

I do this. I even have an argument with myself in my own head when I start to do it ‘don’t think it, don’t think it…..too late there it is’. It’s like I sabotage my own happiness somehow.
I completely get the ‘why aren’t I worrying?’ thoughts.
interestingly, I suspect other people think I’m a happy person as I realise this is irrational and hide it well.

UsefulSmartPrettyHappy · 06/10/2023 17:27

I do this and it's exhausting. You have my sympathy.

DatingDinosaur · 06/10/2023 17:36

" because if you really try, there's always some negative thing to fixate on."

So, you go actively looking for things to get depressed about???

WHYYYY??

Or are you bipolar?

Hamstermayhem · 06/10/2023 18:39

I totally get that and what you said about when you were younger and trying to remember what you were worrying about totally resonates with me-I have never been able to put it into words before though. No advice but I have also suffered with my mental health all my life and am trying to work up the courage to see the GP to see about a referral for an adhd assessment.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 06/10/2023 19:34

It is anxiety and ocd and whenever you feel your mind going like that try to change it as quick as you can and know it is not easy as always been a worrier myself and anxiety from a young age. Alcohol lowers the mood anyway and I really don't drink now as in peri-menopause and just don't crave a drink at all. I cannot have gluten either so only few drinks could have like cider or clear spirits as used to be so ill physically and mentally for days if had alcohol before I knew had issue with gluten. Drink lots of water and try to get some fresh air if only to walk around the block. You are not alone and you are not bipolar as someone said, anxiety and worrying is horrible and you have to find a way to change the way you think. Don't be so hard on yourself either as you sound like you are doing well and everyone has off days and maybe your friend does also but some people like to pretend all is fantastic. Wishing you well and also keep a food diary as food and alcohol can really effect our moods. Best wishes xx

Saverage · 06/10/2023 19:34

I don't drink any more because it affects my moods so badly. Even without alcohol sometimes my mood will plummet, it's like all the serotonin just drains away in a matter or minutes. It will be some minor comment or trigger and poof, all energy and optimism is gone, and I will feel flat and hopeless. Sometimes for just a day, sometimes far longer. It's exhausting.

FingerLickingGod · 09/10/2023 11:18