Secrets in the family household?

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Does your household keep secrets from each other?

I have a dilemma!

DS is 14, we were having a chat in the car after a nice day out and he has just told me he has a girl friend. This is his first one. They’ve been together since just before the summer holidays… it came up as I was asking him about friendships and school.

I’m finding it a weird stage as I’m no longer part of his kiddy ‘social circle’

Anyway he doesn’t want me to tell his dad… who I’m still with and we all live together.

His dad is very playful and jokey and they have a great relationship but DS is pretty sensitive about this and basically doesn’t want to have the ‘jokes’.

But even if I tell dh not to joke about it I’ve still then told him, which my ds has asked me not to do!… But I really want to tell him! We don’t keep secrets. But I also don’t want to betray DS.

What would you do?

Do not betray your son’s trust, you can’t get it back once gone.

This is absolutely how I’m thinking! I really don’t want to!

But it’s a shame that dh doesn’t know

There is a difference between secrecy and privacy. Your DS has asked for privacy which is perfectly acceptable.

That’s a good way of looking at it. Thanks.

Don't betray your son's trust or it will be lost forever.

Why is it a shame your dh doesn't know ?