How to get over horrible feeling after arguments.

[Hungrycaterpillarsmummy]

Yesterday me and my mum had an argument.
I'm left feeling so drained and lethargic today. My eyes are sore, I'm weary and exhausted.
It's almost the same feeling as a hangover.

What I want to ask is how to get over this feeling. I'm meant to be going to a wedding reception tonight and I just feel so bad that I don't want to go.

Talk through it with someone

have you made up with your mum - is that something you can do?
It normally takes me a few days to get over a bad argument. There is a lot of sadness when you argue I feel - I don’t do it often.
Just have a steady say if you can’t make friends. I think once you arrive at the reception there will be so much happening it will take your mind off things.

I did talk it through my my husband but I still feel eaten up by it all. :(

@ZebraD it was kind of resolved and ok by the end of it all but it was a total emotional rollercoaster.
I'm hoping the reception will take my mind off it. I. Am feeling so emotional now though I'm worried about the effects of alcohol so guess I'll have to not drink much of at all. It's a shame because me and DH really need this night out together and have some fun and the excitement has just drained for me

Was it a deep argument? Trivial?
What did your husband make of things? He knows you best obviously…

@ZebraD he agreed with me it sounded like it was a small thing that is bizarre to have been made into a huge argument and that on the whole maybe there's something else going on with my mum that ended up with her sort of breaking. And that I should try to not overthink it because it sounds like there's a bigger picture going on. Which I do agree with but I feel like an emotional punching bag

Started off trivial and then she dredged up every single thing from the past she could think of to hit me with

Awww bless you. That can happen in arguments can’t it.
But let’s just think about it - does your mum love you ? Course she does. Does she want you to be upset? Nope.
So sounds like maybe she has some other things going on. You know there is nothing wrong with approaching and just asking are you ok today, really sorry about yesterday. Rights and wrongs don’t matter. I bet she is just as upset as you. Do you think that could help you feel better? Remember during an argument things get said in the heat of the moment and most people are guilty of this. Hugs

Yes she definitely loves me and I love her.
Thanks for you post I think you are spot on.
I'm going to try and listen to some music while I clean the house and DH has taken the kids out so hopefully that will improve my mood

Awww I hope you enjoy your evening tonight, it will blow over - promise. :-) x

You have to evaluate which one of you was the more sensible one in the argument. If it was you and she doesn't see it then you have to develop some resistance to it. Also focus on making your mum happy rather than have her as your support to avoid bad conscience in the future.

That's why I'm not desperate to marry.