DP going on about a gastric sleeve

[Chasingup]

At my heaviest I weighed 17 stone. I’m now 13 stone which took me around 3 years as I am very much a yo-yo dieter. 3 weeks ago I decided to start again. Somebody that me and DP know has recently had a gastric sleeve. We were talking about it earlier and he suggested me to have one. I told him I don’t want one, I have lost 4 stone all by myself and can lose the remaining 3 stone on my own too. Plus I told going private I believe to be expensive so he suggested getting in touch with my GP to see if I could have one through them.

Now maybe his intentions are in the right place and just I’m being sensitive, but I just feel a bit deflated. All the hard work I’ve put in and am still putting in, it would be nice for him to feel proud of me and to believe in me. I feel like he’s desperate for me to lose the remaining weight. My confidence has grown massively and to feel like it’s still not good enough for him really hurts.

Maybe I am being sensitive, I don’t know

How tall are you?? Surely 13st is nowhere near gastric sleeve territory?

Does he realise what it involves and the aftermath??

I'd very very upset and disappointed with his suggestion.

@Bemyclementine I am 5”6. I am still over weight and not completely happy with how I look, but much happier than I felt at 17 stone

He's a knob

I dont blame you. Keep going in the right direction. Lisa Marie presley died from a bowel obstruction that was a side effect of a gastric sleeve. And wegovy et cetera, might work but you are hungry as soon as you stop. Aim to lose it slowly. If you are 13 stone and can lose 20lbs before the end of 2024, slow and steady, as though u r already "maintaining' , that would be so much healthier for you.

OK so yes, still overweight but bloody hell it's not as if you're a weight loss surgery candidate!!

His intentions are good, he's just ill educated.

He wants you to have an end result, quickly and easily, and he thinks that's what a gastric band is. Simply pop this on, and Bob's your uncle.

He thinks he's saving you from a difficult and lengthy process. So thinks it's a good thing.

Educate him.

Unless he’s generally a nob, I’d assume he thinks that it will sort out the problem for good and is trying to be helpful.

So tell him that it’s a surgery with the potential for major complications and is an absolute last resort. No you wouldn’t consider it.

Not worth the surgery risk

And don't feel deflated you are/should be getting healthier primarily for you.

You carry on being fabulous you.

Is he slim Jim then? Buffed, 6 pack?