Unexpected playdate food, is this ok?

[UnexpectedPlaydate]

Neighbour grabbed me as I was leaving school with DD (aged 9) and said he’d been called into work and his Ex DP (his DCs mum) was also working and would I mind looking after his two DC (Aged 5 and 8) I said fine.

They have no allergies or dietary needs (they’ve come to birthday parties DD has had).

On Friday we usually have fish finger sandwiches so I just did the same for all 3. Then we walked to the shop and had icecreams as I only had 2 in the freezer and wasn’t going to leave out 1 of the DC. They were only the cheapy cone types (supermarket own) though.

Mum will get here about 7.30ish. I’ve only met her once (it’s the dad that lives on our road).

Would this be ok with you as meal?

My own DD would be thrilled and as an emergency freebie I’d not be bothered in the least but I’m worrying.

They’re lovely DC btw, very polite, and often play with DD so I have no concerns re that.

DD has never had an unexpected playdate, its usually arranged in advance.

8yo ate a bit and said she was full. 5yo ate the lot and polished off his sisters leftovers to.

Why do you care? You've done them a huge favour, they'd be very rude to be anything other than greatful.

If someone was willing to have my dc last minute then I wouldn't have a problem what you fed them!

You've done them a massive favour so really they shouldn't be anything but grateful that you've looked after and fed their children.
I'd be delighted and so thankful if you did that for me.

Absolutely!

It's kind of you and I'm sure the DC loved it.

They say anything other than 'thank you so very much' I'd be quite annoyed.

What are you worrying about?
Fishfingers are standard kid food and an ice cream is a nice treat

I wouldn't worry, they were a bit cheeky to ask you and some people would say no. You fed and looked after them and they should be nothing less grateful for that.

And it is perfectly acceptable playdate food which is generally supposed to be a bit more fun than everyday dinner.

So long story short, you're asking if it's ok to give a child a sandwich and an ice cream for tea?

Of course, why wouldn't it be?

If it's ok for your kids, it's ok for them too.

Sounds lovely!

I’d be greatful you looked after the kids when they needed it. The food sounds fine.

Id be annoyed at the dad leaving them with you to work unless they know you well (actually I guess maybe they do if you’ve been at parties together).

Honestly it sounds fine, I love a fish finger sandwich - I’d guess the 8 year old wasn’t keen but if I was her mum I’d be grateful you offered her food and i’d just give her something else when I got in

youve been a kind neighbour, I can’t imagine they’ll be anything but grateful

Delicious treat dinner!

Oh course it’s fine. It’s food. They aren’t going home hungry, and you did a massive favour. Parent can give them something else when home if they are still starved

Sounds fine and lovely and like it worked out all round 😊 I'd be grateful to you and glad the children enjoyed themselves.

Sounds spot on!

Why would you worry about this? You did them a favour - (nice to do - and I really hate the whole 'how cheeky' narrative on mumsnet - god this is called being in a community and give and take ) - nothing wrong with them asking.

Surely all children eat fish fingers fairly regularly?!

I'd be really happy you provided free childcare and fed my children and would be really grateful for that.

My DC doesn't eat fish, no allergies, he just hates fish. But even if you gave him a slice of toast or some cereal to tide him over I'd be grand I'd feed him when we got home.

Any child in my house eats with us if they’re there when it happens and I’d make sure they had a snack if not. Absolutely fine and can’t see anyone complaining. I also expect my child to have a snack at least if she goes to someone else’s house but I guess I’m lucky that I’m friends with her friends mums.