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Entitled people - come here to let off steam

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Daffpetals · 14/09/2023 16:12

This thread probably won’t be popular but bear with me while I rant and give you all a space to get some stress off your shoulders too..

I live next door to the most entitled person I’ve met in years. She thinks everyone owes her whatever she expects at that time, whether it’s complete silence, the last parking space, her dog can be loud and aggressive but everyone else’s dogs are dangerous and should be muzzled, if my children are playing in the garden they HAVE to be quiet according to her but if her grandchildren are outside screaming at 6am ‘it’s what kids do’ etc, I’m sure you get the picture. It’s hell living next door to her and feels like I’m in a house share, when she goes out I actually feel like I’m home alone (if I am) because her presence is that noticeable. Im absolutely sick of living the way we do because of her demands and rules, eg we aren’t allowed to have music on because it disturbs her peace but she will have hers on overnight and doesn’t see an issue. To make it worse (here is the unpopular part) she is in a 3 bedroom council house she doesn’t need. Her daughter is in a 1 bedroom council flat in a tower block with 2 children because she can’t afford to move. Neighbour refuses to give up the house to her daughter because of her plants- yes seriously. I overhear her constantly belittle her daughter and takes her children because she can’t house them or provide them with a garden or bedroom each (her words). (Council house point relevant to show she can move easier than if they were owned properties, and a luxury not everyone can get).
Yes I know none of this is my business but as a general sweep of the nation, this is an example of how entitled some people have become over the years and I see it day in day out. I’m disgusted by the comments I overhear from her and how this woman thinks the world owes her something while purposely being disrespectful to those around her.
I was raised by parents who had late night parties and didn’t care about upsetting the elderly neighbours. As a child at the time I wasn’t aware/didn’t care, but now I look back and feel ashamed of how they treated others and what awful neighbours we would have been.
I’ve done big favours for my neighbours, some grateful others not so much, the entitled one has no gratitude in her body who thinks nothing of disturbing us overnight to then complain my husbands van wakes her at 8AM when he leaves for work. (Many other neighbours leave earlier including a loud motorbike). If there was genuine anti social behaviour going on I’d understand but it’s all petty reasons aimed at anyone who will give her the attention she craves. It’s gone on so long I’m waiting for my gp appointment for anti depressants because it’s given me anxiety and panic attacks.
Other entitlement situations recently: I’ve been pushed aside on paths because the person believed they were more important to pass than I was. Rare thank yous for holding open doors or standing aside for others. Shop staff sworn at and abused. Witnessed our postman being threatened with violence several months back because a parcel had gone missing. School parents parking on strangers’ driveways for easier access to school. The goodness in many people seems to be long gone these days and it’s really sad to see the lack of community. I know there are plenty of good people around, but at the moment all I see is the selfishness and wonder what hope our children and grandchildren have.
Does anyone else have entitled people stories to share to help my current anger towards my neighbour for yet another tantrum where she can’t get her own way? There won’t be any judgement or criticism towards whatever you say on this thread, we all need to bitch and moan sometimes!

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Floogal · 14/09/2023 16:21

Sounds like Mrs Hobbs shuddering

fearfuloffluff · 14/09/2023 16:23

She sounds unpleasant, there have always been unpleasant people, I don't think you can draw conclusions about the state of humanity from it.

JanefromLondon1 · 14/09/2023 17:09

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BadHairBae · 14/09/2023 17:14

Pfft, if be playing my music regardless.

She sounds like a nightmare, OP. Have you ever spoken to her about it?

Zebedee55 · 14/09/2023 17:20

Stop pandering to her. 😉

newnamethanks · 14/09/2023 17:21

Dear me OP. Two words you need to learn to say to your neighbour for every complaint. Beginning and ending with F.

Moredrobe · 14/09/2023 17:49

What is it that makes you feel you have to comply with her demands? Start treating her like an irritating but powerless fly that you occasionally have to swat away. And have a deep think (meant kindly) about what your underlying reasons are for giving a hoot what she says - you might find that it’s totally irrational. Unless genuinely antisocial behaviour, you have nothing to worry about.

TopazQuartz · 15/09/2023 00:07

Daffpetals, I think it's nice of you to be considering your neighbour's wishes, but if she's not considering other's needs then, well I would want to point it out.

Reason I'd want to point it out is maybe she doesn't realise how she's coming across and needs to see it. If she complained about my child again I'd say something like 'but as you've said yourself, it's what children do, it's like when your grandchildren are making noise at 6am, it's really disturbing but we are all having to make allowances aren't we?' (the 'aren't we' means she'll feel pressured to give a yes or a no, but at least it opens up the conversation)

I don't know, I am just getting the impression (not sure if I'm right of course) that she says things but is not getting any challenge to what she says.

People like that are annoying and I agree with you a lot of people are extremely rude and nasty atm. Life is very stressful but it doesn't make me rude to people for no reason, I don't understand it.

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