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Thinkingofanewname · 14/09/2023 13:08

I have Been posting quite a bit about ds who's 16 and has been aggressive violent towards me. And towards dd but on a lower scale. Been wutkong with professionals etc.

So ds is still hard work. But is better compared to what he was. There is still some work to do. He's not really engaging with family practitioner. But nothing I can do to be honest. As its between them 2.

Sw is in contact roughly every 3 weeks or so last time we had a video call meeting. She was quite supportive to me as a parent and tried to support me on putting rules in place regarding loud music times ect. We tried to engage DS in this with comprising etc. But he just kept coming back with excuses and putting obstacles in the way. So in the end it was agreed between me and sw that by 8pm music gos off /very low or head phones. With that there has been hiccups here and there but it's been ok on the whole.

My main concern is hes still quite funny towards dd. So I really want to talk to social worker about that.

On a positive note.

Ds went for an interview yesterday. He will do construction work. Maths English. There is an induction day next week then he will start the following week. He said in the interview the people seemed relaxed easy going and he said he feels it will be a much better setting for him than school/college setting.

I'm really really praying that this is a turning point for him. I think it will be fantastic for him. And give him a good focus. And then hopefully have a good knock on effect for his confidence mental health and people /family around him.

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Thinkingofanewname · 14/09/2023 17:51

The only thing that worries me is he's been doing nothing for past couple of years abd this may be a shock to the system. And he might not do it.

Also the course is near a family he knows and I'm concerned he may go there instead. Really hope om wrong though. Definitely trying to leap it as a positive thing

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MatthewsMumFromTikTok · 14/09/2023 17:54

I have never read a single post.... why not update on the actual thread?

Thinkingofanewname · 14/09/2023 18:23

MatthewsMumFromTikTok · 14/09/2023 17:54

I have never read a single post.... why not update on the actual thread?

Because I had to name change due to privacy issues. So I'm not sure if its safe to link it all. If some know my situation from my post that is fine. If not I guess that's how it gos .

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Woollymonster · 14/09/2023 19:24

Hi OP
I have seen your previous posts. It sounds as if things are settling down a bit which is good.
Will your DS have some additional support in college?

Thinkingofanewname · 14/09/2023 19:46

Woollymonster · 14/09/2023 19:24

Hi OP
I have seen your previous posts. It sounds as if things are settling down a bit which is good.
Will your DS have some additional support in college?

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Thinkingofanewname · 14/09/2023 19:49

Woollymonster · 14/09/2023 19:24

Hi OP
I have seen your previous posts. It sounds as if things are settling down a bit which is good.
Will your DS have some additional support in college?

I'm not sure if he's getting any support. I never thought of that. I will ask his CAMHS worker as its her who helped him sort it all out. And yes I really hope things will change now and it will have a positive knock on effect with other things

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TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 14/09/2023 20:27

I'm glad there are positive developments, OP... I think I read your previous thread. It resonated because I also had a violent teen (daughter, though).

It's important that you let college know of your DSs difficulties, diagnoses or any anticipated problems. They may well be able to put measures in place to help.

Good luck to all of you.

Thinkingofanewname · 14/09/2023 20:33

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 14/09/2023 20:27

I'm glad there are positive developments, OP... I think I read your previous thread. It resonated because I also had a violent teen (daughter, though).

It's important that you let college know of your DSs difficulties, diagnoses or any anticipated problems. They may well be able to put measures in place to help.

Good luck to all of you.

Yes I will do . I will contact his camhs worker. As I don't want to tread on his toes . So I will talk to her first I think.

Thank you 💐

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