Don't want to fancy my boss!

[StaySpicy]

I've been in a job about 5 years. I've been working with this guy since the beginning. He's a bit younger than me, we're both married, both have children. I have absolutely had zero interest in him, he's not my type and I find him a bit frustrating as a manager. I do, however, find him easy to talk to.

Anyway, I think I've been a bit starved of company lately as we had a long conversation the other day that just kind of kept going. Ali work related, no-one would find anything untoward in what we said or did, but I've come away from it thinking how lovely it was and questioning whether we were flirting even though I'm sure we weren't.

For context, I've had several long days and have been tucked away in a tiny office on a different site to him, hardly talking to anyone as I've had a ton of work. I've been too tired when I get home to talk much with DH and I don't have many friends atm or time for them so think I've just been missing long, friendly chats, which is what I had with my boss the other day.

I just can't get out of my head our nice, relaxed chat. I really, really don't want to develop a crush on him as our roles necessitate daily contact and meetings. How do I stop turning a normal meeting into something more in my head? Do you think just trying to regularly have a chat with DH/friends in person or on the phone would help?

Don’t beat yourself up. I’m happily married and sometimes fancy other men. I think that’s quite normal ?

Just don’t obsess about it. You’re a grown woman who can control herself so just keep a lid on it. It’s not like you’re going to take leave of your senses and jump him-keep it as an idle daydream.

Being able to talk to an understanding boss is a massive positive. Don’t confuse him caring about your well being as anything more than that.

Maybe try to factor in some time in your work day to get out of your tiny office? You’re probably a bit starved of human contact! Gym at lunchtime or get out to a coffee shop or something?

And make some effort to spend time with dh even just watching a film together.
If you don’t feel your dh takes an interest in you or listens to you, then tell him x

Thanks! It's good to know it's probably normal to have little crushes. I've had one or two since I've been in this relationship but I managed to remain literally distant which helped deaden any thoughts. I can't avoid this guy, though!

Good idea about getting out of my office. I do need to do that!

Have people walk all over you so that you appear in a different world. Then you won't fancy anyone.