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How to be better at disagreeing

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Hope24 · 13/09/2023 16:43

Couldn't word a better title, but I was hoping I could get some input and advice on how to be more confident in disagreeing at work and in general life situations.

From a very young age, I've been a people pleaser. I didn't even know this was what it's called until I had CBT last year and started to understand my thought processes and anxiety better.

In a lot of situations, when there is a discussion or debate happening, I can't seem to articulate my point across if I disagree with something and so just end up saying I agree with the other person. Often I will not really have an opinion and again I will just end up agreeing. This happens to me a lot at work and it's bringing me down. I see my colleagues who are confident in sharing their views and will be able to articulate their point well. I just can't seem to do that. I think this stems from fear of rejection, that my view will be looked at in a negative way, or people will think I don't make sense.

I will say that I do have diagnosed social anxiety and I have put a lot of work into improving this. There are some aspects of it that are still quite apparent.

I suppose my question is, if you are someone who has anxiety, how do you get past this fear?

Or more generally if anyone has advice on how to improve my critical thinking and conversation skills.

Thank you!

OP posts:
purpleboy · 13/09/2023 17:22

Do you have opinions on the topics being discussed?
I find it worse when someone chimes in with an opinion when it's obvious they actually have no knowledge of the situation.

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