Anyone on here have older twins (age 8)?

[oneandabitsugars]

Is there a multiples thread on here for junior aged twins? The multiples ones are mainly for babies and toddlers.

Good question.. I don't know. Have never seen one. I have twins age 10. Anything in particular want to discuss?

Mine are very nearly 8

I think the other twins section is under 'Multiple Births' so people only tend to post for twin pregnancies/ baby/ toddler queries!

SIL has just given birth to baby twins - so cute!! She asked me when they get easier - I didn't have the heart to tell her I'm still waiting 😂😂

I have 2 non-ID boys. They play together loads and get on well. One likes reading, trains and science toys. The other is really active/loves football and can't amuse himself easily (says hates playing alone).

This means whenever when one wants some independent play, the other is constantly pestering. He's great fun and really good company but struggles to play indoors on anything that isn't electrical. I do limit his device otherwise he'd be on it all day. He used to like drawing and reading but has gone off those. He doesn't take himself off on his own for even 10 mins.
My other twin has started to complain about it so I tell the other one to accept that no or not now means no. I try and reassure him that someone will play with him soon but IMO he needs to build the confidence to sort himself out and create his own play at times? Me and DH play with him lots too.

Mine are 17 now. Does that count?

they were much easier to deal with aged 8

Sometimes it would be nice to just chat as we have no family nearby. I bet the teens brings a whole load of new challenges!

Do you have a twins club nearby @oneandabitsugars? Or could you join one of the Facebook pages?

My DTs have two other sets of twins in their (two form entry) year which helps - bizarrely there are none in the year above or below them! Other than that I don't know anyone with older twins IRL, only people with younger ones.

Your DTs sound like mine though except mine squabble non bloody stop - my sporty one has suspected ADHD and is terrible at playing/ working independently. The other one is more academic, enjoys a couple of sports but on the whole will occupy himself for a bit.

@Minfilia what a depressing thought, that this is an easy age

Mine are 6.5 if that counts. Girl and boy, chalk and cheese!

You'd probably still get answers if you posted this as a general question. I think it's quite normal for eg an older sibling to be pestered by a younger one wanting to play. I was thinking the other day it would be starting to get easier if my eldest was a twin as she is a bit like your son and loves to play with others and if there's noone around then that's on me to play with her haha. But I didn't consider what if the other twin didn't want to play!

My twins are 8. Technically identical girls but they are very different!

I can honestly say that the time between maybe 6 and 11 was the easiest. I would even take the baby and toddler years again!

Teen twins are a nightmare. Sorry. 😂

(it’s all subjective though, you might find yours are a breeze in later life and you’re in the difficult phase now)

@Minfilia I cannot imagine preferring my DTs' toddler years to anything actually DTS2 was ok on his own but DTS1 was hideously awful and I cannot even think of those years without shuddering. In fairness to him we did later find out that some of his awfulness was/ is due to medical issues, but this did not help when he was having one of his twice daily meltdowns...

DS1 is always moving. I admire his energy! DS2 can do that for a bit but needs to recharge in between so will sit and concentrate on something. That's fine but DS1 struggles to self-start his own play when I need 5 mins after doing some active things with him for most of the weekend and he starts pestering and shouting when I'm trying to listen to another adult for example. I tell him to wait.

It's hard getting the one on one time with him but DS2 does an after school club that DS1 doesn't, so that's a good time with him.

@oneandabitsugars my DTS1 also cannot wait/ play independently/ sit bloody still, it's infuriating! It's one of the reasons I suspect he has ADHD TBH, he seems much younger than his actual age - it's not unlike having a toddler again sometimes

DTS2 is really acting up at home, just rude to everyone, defiant, won't help with anything unless it's something for him or until he gets shouted at - I suspect something is bothering him at school but he will not admit this. Sigh. Honestly I'm starting to dread school pick up time, he's relentlessly horrible, no matter how many times we tell him his behaviour isn't acceptable.

BIL & SIL had one DD who they found challenging, I mean obviously she is cute and they love her, but I think after many years of being childless, having disposable income, going on multiple holidays a year etc they found it a much bigger adjustment than they expected. BIL is a lot younger than DP and had spent a lot of time telling us what they'd do differently when they had DC well not only has it turned out that having kids is much harder than they expected, they've also found out that DC2 (SIL is pregnant again) is in fact twin boys, and they are still in shock