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Husband always so negative

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whatsthedealio · 11/09/2023 21:14

I'm married to my DH for 17 years. We get on great and he's a great husband but he's always so bloody negative about everything. We moved house 2 years ago and granted it was a bit of a doer upper, it was our perfect location to our families and schools etc. it's great to be able to walk everywhere as our previous house was quite rural so kids needed driven everywhere and it was a pin in the arse.

Anyway grumpy hole has just confessed that he regrets buying the house. He hates that's it isn't as modern as all our friends houses (which is true) and that it's an embarrassment. I'm of the persuasion that we will eventually be able to to the things we want but it takes time to get things the way you want them and that the location of this house and kids having lots of friends is such a massive indicator of happiness- before they never got out unless it was a planned event to cinema etc or a play date.

He's put me in such a bad form by saying it. I'm always a glass half full and see opportunities and potential in things where DH is the entire opposite. He is always negative and has something to complain about and it's really getting on my goat!!!

Anyway I don't know what I'm
Hoping to achieve others than venting

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MariePaperRoses · 11/09/2023 21:17

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Fine if he doesn't like the house in its present state but to hate on it because he's comparing it to friends houses is just being bitter.

Maybe tell him to get his finger out and do stuff to improve the home or work extra to pay for work to be carried out!

Rosiem2808 · 11/09/2023 21:21

If he doesn't like it tell him to do something about it

whatsthedealio · 11/09/2023 21:28

Thanks so much for your responses!!! I've said the same, I'm like well, if it's a mess what are you doing to help tidy?! And his response is well because it's such a mess I have no desire to tidy it because I've lost interest in it. I'm just tired. I'm working 2 jobs 6 days a week to save extra cash to speed things along yet I spent Sunday all day tidying/ cleaning because I feel like I get no help. For context he is the main breadwinner by a million miles so he's not a lazy slob, he just can't see that in order for the house to look nice, you neee to actually tidy stuff and out things away.

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