My 3 yo moved up to the final room at nursery 6 weeks ago but still hasn't settled. He hates the new room, misses his old carers, and says it's "scary". On the days he attends he cries when he realises what day it is. He asks not to go and getting him into the nursery is a battle every day and horrible for him and me, and his Dad. All over the weekend he is so happy to be at home.
I was hoping it might improve once the oldest children left to start primary school but it doesn't seem to have helped. The carers always say "he's had a lovely day", but someone I know who works at the nursery said they've seen him sitting by himself in the corner not wanting to join in, and looking sad on a number of occasions.
I have tried to ask him about how he feels and all he says is he doesn't like it Abs it's scary. He said the bigger children are scary but as I said, this doesn't seem to have improved now that most if those have left.
Should we remove him or keep trying? There's obviously one year till reception. Do we try him with a new nursery for a year or would the upheaval of trying afresh with all new faces and new settling be too much? And what if he said he hated the new nursery and missed the old one? Is it "better the devil you know"?