What small decision changed the course of your entire life?

[justanothermanicmonday1]

Lighthearted.

Mines was just getting out of a relationship, being in my thirties and thinking I'd never ever meet anyone. I'd got used to the fact that I wouldn't likely have children, and be alone. And I was fine with that.

4 weeks after I ended my relationship, my friend asked if I wanted to be set up on a date with her friends friend. I was extremely reluctant.....

3 years later we have a toddler and a newborn and it was the best decision I have ever made in my entire life. I didn't think I would ever be this lucky. He treats me how I deserve to be treated, hands on, funny, respectful, romantic & the best role model for our children!

Intrigued to hear people's stories whilst my newborn sleeps away..... 🥹

In my 20’s I had a completely suitable boyfriend, our families knew each other, he had just qualified in his profession, he was good looking, respectful and kind and proposed to me repeatedly. But in my head a voice kept saying “there has to be more”. The relationship finished and six weeks later the love of my life walked through the door where I worked. We married, had a son, we’re happy for 40 years, and I have now been a widow for six years. That tiny moment, when I knew there had to be more, changed the course of my life. I am also pleased to report that the first suitor was snapped up by a friend of mine, and although they never spoke to me again, they have been very happy together, and have three lovely children. I’m so glad it worked out for them as well.

So?

So many of these stories involve meeting a man.

Feel free to contribute one that doesn't. You know, 'be the change you want to see'.

Right it's as if women can't do anything alone.

Oh I love this story ! What a great instructor. But also want strength it must have taken you to even walk through the door in the first place

Strange turn this thread has taken.

I’ve had many sliding doors moments in my life, but the one that sprang to mind immediately was meeting my DH, because we created a family which I wouldn’t have had without him. Pretty major life changing stuff.

I could tell you tales about jobs I did or didn’t take, places I did or didn’t travel to etc…but like a lot of people (not just women) my family is the most important thing in my life.

While pregnant with my second I booked a house viewing - one of the last available houses on a development I loved. I managed to convince my husband this was perfect for our family, he kept asking me to book more viewings but I only had eyes for one house 😅
We moved in over a year ago and I still love my house and the location. Now I'm out of the baby fog we've been meeting loads of lovely neighbours this summer, our kids our making friends and I have no regrets.

Right it's as if women can't do anything alone.

You again. Feel free to contribute one that doesn't.

20 years ago I was testing a chat application and randomly pinged a person on there ... he decided to start a conversation with me and we have been a couple since then. :)

I decided to go onto postgraduate studies though it would be expensive and hard. Did really well and despite the debt to repay now have a successful career and good salary and so many opportunities.

I've developed so many hobbies and travelled so much with no man to moan about it or say he didn't like that destination or type of holiday.

No man gave me my career and my bf I dumped ended up a divorced deadbeat dad. He would have held me back if I hadn't dumped him after uni.

My career has given me more opportunities than meeting any dumb guy would have.

Reasonably complex to make babies without one, and my children certainly changed my life

Having an abortion when I was 21, I was in an abusive relationship and finally saw the light. He said he’d kick the baby out of me so I took the decision out of his hands, left him and never looked back!

I’m been happily married for ten years and have an a
amazing 4 year old daughter.

Sperm donor ?!

I reached rock bottom, got into AA and embraced sobriety. Fifteen years later and everything is very different. I doubt that I would still be here otherwise.

Yup, so many handmaids with tales of meeting their life partner. Letting the side down, ladies! 😘 🙄

Any decision at the crossroads of your life is going to be one that changes the course of your life. For me, it was which course to take at university, which job to take, the decision to move to London for my job more than 20 years ago, met my life partner dh and now have a family. The decision to buy the house we are now in (and the house before which got us on the property ladder).

I am trying to think of a small 'sliding doors' type decision that changed my life. I am sure there must have been many (including whether to snooze my alarm clock) but I just did not notice it because it would not have been a conscious decision and had I had chosen a different fork, I would not have been the wiser.

Early on in my Erasmus year in Finland I made friends with a couple of people from my accommodation building. We decided to go out to eat then find a bar to watch formula 1 in. We chose a bar at random, just seeing a sports bar sign on it, and found a sofa free to sit on. Bar got busy quickly and a man asked if he could sit with us as we had the only free seat left. Got talking and hung out all evening and ended up getting together, eventually resulting in me not going back home after my Erasmus year ended and we had a daughter together. Since broke up (he turned out to be quite horrid) but that one choice of bar to go in that one Sunday afternoon resulted in me moving country permanently and living a completely different life to what I might have done.

Wasn't a decision but if my friend's fiancé hadn't died, I'd never have met my husband who I now have my wonderful children with.

Certain people trying and failing trying to bring down the tone of this thread. Still loving & reading all stories 💘

2 months after applying for a divorce I met my first crush again. I now have a perfect (for me) life with him and our children. I have an amazing relationship I used to think wasn't possible and certainly wouldn't have been possible had I not but the bullet and walked away from my ex.

Moved to prove my healthcare. Never been so ill.

I'd moved for a partner and ended up settling I'm a town I really didn't like. I used mumsnet to search for a nicer part of the same county with better schools. The name of one village kept coming up. Took DH to a pub lunch in the village and without prompting he said 'wouldn't it be nice to live in a place like this.' And here we are! I do wonder if those Mumsnettters are the people I see on the school run!

Decided to move to the Cayman Islands for shits and giggles. No job, I'd never been to Caribbean before and I knew nobody.
Met my husband 6 weeks later and 16 years later we have two kids, a business and my career has skyrocketed.

At the start of my second year at university I had two offers to move into shared student houses. I liked both locations and groups of people. Chose a house based on it being handier for the bus route to campus. Stayed there for my second and third year. At the start of my third year one of the other students I shared with left, and someone else living there knew a guy doing a PhD in their subject who'd like to move into the empty room. PhD friend-of-friend moved into the empty room downstairs. He seemed nice. Reader, 8 years later I married him, and we were married for 22 years until he died of cancer. 💔
If I'd chosen the other student house I probably wouldn't have met DH since we weren't studying in the same department/campus building.

I ended a long marriage almost 3 years ago due to us being friends (no sex life/no affection). I’m still going through the divorce process which is tough but should be over soon.

I live up north but I’ve applied for three jobs south. All 3 have called me for an interview. One would be a nice pay rise!!

Let’s see what happens!!