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Neighbour basically accused me of killing cats.

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ell87 · 09/09/2023 21:30

Whilst we were way on holiday our next door neighbours cat went sadly missing.
When we got back they told us so we made a search ourselves and are constantly on the lookout since.
Our other neighbour a few doors down came to our door this evening, acting very weird. Asked if we'd seen her cat. I replied no I haven't but I'll keep a lookout. She kept looking at my 2 little dogs all weird saying "thats strange isn't it" repeatedly. Insinuating that my dogs have killed both the neighbours and her cats.
My dogs are tiny little old things. They spent the week with my mum and her cat, not a problem. All 3 of them slept on her bed all week. They're not prey driven dogs. They're scared of cats if anything.

She seemed either drunk or high. I couldn't tell but now I feel really intimidated in my own home and not sure how to handle this.
She also made a point of my tan and asked me if I'd been anywhere nice. Like she was jealous.
I just feel really weirded out and unsettled.
Any advice??

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cuckyplunt · 09/09/2023 21:37

Set the dogs on her..

Irridescantshimmmer · 09/09/2023 21:42

Your nieghbour is unhinged.

Who, in the right mind goes round accusing people with no proof?

Even Homer Simpson does'nt do that dohhh.....

She does not understand that cats own themselves and have probably adopted another nieghbour(s) to get away from her.

Its up to you what you do here OP, but I think you better be careful with her.

Tara24 · 09/09/2023 22:22

What do you mean, any advice ? You just ignore her. What else are you meant to do?

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Reugny · 09/09/2023 22:24

Ignore her.

Plenty of people have cats AND one or more dogs. The dogs are normally under the control of one of the cats.

Original poster
ell87 · 09/09/2023 22:38

Tara24 · 09/09/2023 22:22

What do you mean, any advice ? You just ignore her. What else are you meant to do?

I don't know really I just thought maybe I have grounds to report her for intimidating me. Other neighbours have had similar run ins with her. My neighbour even warned me about not telling her when we go away on holiday as she knows dodgy people and they said they had expensive belonging stolen from their property that only she knew they had.

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Original poster
ell87 · 09/09/2023 22:40

Reugny · 09/09/2023 22:24

Ignore her.

Plenty of people have cats AND one or more dogs. The dogs are normally under the control of one of the cats.

My dogs are definitely under control of cats. Both adopted from cat households. Both smaller then my mums cat and absolutely terrified of him. Also one of my dogs has no teeth and the others teeth is so small I have to cut her food up for her so not sure how they're meant to maul a cat 😳

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ClusterFukt · 09/09/2023 22:48

Just ignore her she sounds like an absolute fucking loon.

Tara24 · 09/09/2023 22:50

Report her to who ?

Webmeister999 · 09/09/2023 22:51

I have a neighbour who is a bit of an oddball. She has an obsession with rubbish, bins and drains. She was constantly sending pumbers around to my house. I got a ring type doorbell and no longer answer the door to strangers.

I would step back from any contact with this particular neighbour. Dont open the door to her and always be in a hurry if you see her in the street. Mobile phones are so useful for this. You can suddenly/always be busy on a call.

808KateO · 09/09/2023 22:56

If you think she was high then she probably was. I think the only thing you can really do here is ignore her, unless she intensifies her behaviour and then you could report for harassment.

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ell87 · 09/09/2023 23:18

Webmeister999 · 09/09/2023 22:51

I have a neighbour who is a bit of an oddball. She has an obsession with rubbish, bins and drains. She was constantly sending pumbers around to my house. I got a ring type doorbell and no longer answer the door to strangers.

I would step back from any contact with this particular neighbour. Dont open the door to her and always be in a hurry if you see her in the street. Mobile phones are so useful for this. You can suddenly/always be busy on a call.

I'm charging my ring doorbell up at the moment. Haven't had it on for a few months as lost the screw driver for it.
When we first moved in she used to get her son to sit in our front garden and pick the petals off our roses and once when we got a skip she stole our bin and filled it with her rubbish.
She's a single mum and I think she might be a bit jealous of us as we have a nice car and have bbqs and family gatherings so it looks like all is rosy for us (reality not so much!) . I want to try and be understanding but tonight she was just off it and had an real evil look in her eyes. I'm now genuinely worried about how unhinged she actually is and what she could potentially do.

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Islandsadness · 09/09/2023 23:35

ClusterFukt · 09/09/2023 22:48

Just ignore her she sounds like an absolute fucking loon.

Really? I can't see anything in the OP that is off except the OP's interpretation of it!

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ell87 · 09/09/2023 23:49

@Islandsadness

Trust me if you were there you'd know what I meant!

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noctiscaelum · 10/09/2023 00:05

She also made a point of my tan and asked me if I'd been anywhere nice.

If she was aware of your tan and you've told her you've been away, and dogs weren't there either when their cats gone missing, it's pretty clear it wasn't your dogs?

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ell87 · 10/09/2023 00:08

noctiscaelum · 10/09/2023 00:05

She also made a point of my tan and asked me if I'd been anywhere nice.

If she was aware of your tan and you've told her you've been away, and dogs weren't there either when their cats gone missing, it's pretty clear it wasn't your dogs?

That's correct. She knows we weren't around when it happened. She's literally just trying to be intimidating because she hates me and wants to cause me misery, so will find any which way to do that.

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Fab973 · 20/10/2023 08:06

get a ring doorbell or equivalent she sounds loopy

Thecomfortador · 20/10/2023 08:19

How old is her son? I'd be more concerned if she's high and in sole charge of a child than making odd comments about your tiny dogs.

Shinyandnew1 · 20/10/2023 08:27

She's literally just trying to be intimidating because she hates me and wants to cause me misery, so will find any which way to do that.

What makes you think she hates you and wants to cause you misery? Do you even know her?

Loubelle70 · 20/10/2023 08:28

cuckyplunt · 09/09/2023 21:37

Set the dogs on her..

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Loubelle70 · 20/10/2023 08:30

She just sounds like what i call a 'bully neighbour', knows you havent been around when cat went missing but shes asserting her assumed authority.
If she stops you again, tell her to stop. If she starts, tell her to F.O and to stop with the hatstand behaviour

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