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Would you go to a school reunion?

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F0XCUB · 09/09/2023 14:44

I'm 48 and we have one coming up, I'm really in two minds about it. I'm only in touch with a couple of people from school and they want to go. I just think it might be a bit cringe. Would you?

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TidyDancer · 09/09/2023 16:06

No I don't think I would go. Someone tried to organise one just before covid and I wouldn't have gone even if it was allowed to go ahead. I'm only in touch with one person I went to school with (unless you count vague Facebook connections) and I'm happy about that.

Ponderingwindow · 09/09/2023 16:08

I have skipped the 10th, 20th, and 30th.

the 30th was ridiculously conveniently located and cheap to attend. I still declined.

Kay286 · 09/09/2023 16:15

IHateWasps · 09/09/2023 16:00

There is one for my school next week… most of them going are the scruffs of the school and all still live local anyway so pretty pointless .. I didn’t like them at school and not interested in their lives now.

Nope really not bothered … the only people I’d want to probably see are the ones that have done interesting adventurous things with their lives - but we all live in different continents now !

I can't begin to imagine how utterly devastated they will be when you don't show up. Hmm

absolutely fine by me ! …. probably too busy working out who is getting the next lager top in and who has cheapest council house.

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QuietDragon · 09/09/2023 16:21

What is it with all the weird snobbery about 'still living locally'?

What difference does it make? One of my old school friends still lives locally, but has a job that takes her all over the world. Also know people that moved away that don't seem to be living the high life, if their Facebook feed is anything to go by!

You can be living a miserable, crap life on any continent surely??

Anyway all the above is why I wouldn't go, people can be so judgemental and unpleasant.

ProudCloud · 09/09/2023 16:24

I remember my Mum going to one years ago and it was basically a huge brag fest for the organiser who hosted the whole thing in her grounds as the actual school had closed.

2chocolateoranges · 09/09/2023 16:26

No I personally wouldn’t, I keep in contact with the people from school I was friends with and that’s all I need.

SisterMichaelsHabit · 09/09/2023 16:27

We had this thread last week. My answer's still no. No powers in the universe could compel me to turn up.

Kay286 · 09/09/2023 16:27

QuietDragon · 09/09/2023 16:21

What is it with all the weird snobbery about 'still living locally'?

What difference does it make? One of my old school friends still lives locally, but has a job that takes her all over the world. Also know people that moved away that don't seem to be living the high life, if their Facebook feed is anything to go by!

You can be living a miserable, crap life on any continent surely??

Anyway all the above is why I wouldn't go, people can be so judgemental and unpleasant.

In relation to living locally mine is more because I can see all the people attending are basically the people who live in same town where we went to school they probably all see each other in the local pub or Tesco - so what’s the point ?
My post is quite judgmental I admit … however not without reason … seeing some of the girls I used to go to school with … (who would call you frigid if you hadn’t had sex with your boyfriend after 3months age 14) loads of just awful stuff ….. left school without qualifications pregnant by age 16 probably multiple kids and have done nothing with their lives …. Well I have no interest in re visiting that !

Doggymummar · 09/09/2023 16:29

God now, I was horribly bullied leading to lifelong trauma

ThreeRingCircus · 09/09/2023 16:36

Absolutely not. From speaking with a couple of friends that have been to their school reunions it mainly seems like an opportunity for people to judge how "successful" (or not) your life has been.

I was bullied at secondary school though and was a bit of an outsider so that definitely impacts on my feelings. Things turned out well for me but I have no interest in seeing the girls that bullied me ever again.

MidnightOnceMore · 09/09/2023 16:37

Oh no, definitely not. I still see some people from school but a reunion is not my thing.

yogasaurus · 09/09/2023 16:38

No, I didn’t. I live hundreds of miles away now, and I’m in touch with anyone I want to be already.

I don’t want to go and see someone’s ‘glow up’ thanks. I can’t think of any reason why you’d want to go, unless you thought you were going to settle some old imaginary score

DixonD · 09/09/2023 16:43

Nope. There’s very many of them I would gladly never see again.

Jackienory · 09/09/2023 16:48

I still live in the area where I grew up and bump into friends I went to school with quite often. Also, my daughters went to the same school so I have a connection to the place. I support the school in any way I can and present/talk to girls who are interested in a career in the NHS.

Dontcallmescarface · 09/09/2023 16:48

Nope. I'm only in contact with 2 people I went to school with....the rest can go fuck themselves. I have no interest in being in a room with any of them again.

user1471538283 · 09/09/2023 16:53

I went to one a few years ago and whilst it was really nice to see a handful of people I wouldn't go to another. Most of the others I had nothing in common with them then and even less now.

I keep in touch with some friends from high school and see them more regularly.

Pushkinia · 09/09/2023 17:00

No. One was organised for my year group a few years ago, but it was going to be a meal then a pub crawl, which I had no interest in.

I’m still in touch with quite a few people I was friends with at school. I don’t need to go back and see everyone else.

ChallengeAnneka · 09/09/2023 17:05

I might go due to mild curiosity about the lives of acquaintances who I wasn’t good enough friends with to stay in touch with. But I don’t feel strongly either way.

CrunchyCarrot · 09/09/2023 17:11

Aside from the fact that my school was on the other side of the world, no I wouldn't go. Several in my class bullied me so I have no desire to see them ever again!

DiddlyDonut · 09/09/2023 17:27

Yes if I could go with a pal. And there was plenty of alcohol available.

ToriesAgainstHumanity · 09/09/2023 17:35

Unless I lost 4 stone before the reunion happened, no.

I was picked on a lot and although I'm very happy with my life I'd be embarrassed to go in my current state.

However if the mates from school that I still am really close to were going I'd probably go and just get shit faced.

BackToOklahoma · 09/09/2023 17:36

No, I’m already friends with the people I want to be from school days. I hear about others through them so I wouldn’t be interested in a reunion.

Starlightstarbright2 · 09/09/2023 17:40

God no .. I bunked off school more than I went …. There are many people I would not like to see again.

JanesBlond · 09/09/2023 17:47

QuietDragon · 09/09/2023 16:21

What is it with all the weird snobbery about 'still living locally'?

What difference does it make? One of my old school friends still lives locally, but has a job that takes her all over the world. Also know people that moved away that don't seem to be living the high life, if their Facebook feed is anything to go by!

You can be living a miserable, crap life on any continent surely??

Anyway all the above is why I wouldn't go, people can be so judgemental and unpleasant.

Of course, but I would imagine most people who still live where they grew up do so by default rather than because they’ve tried all around the world and decided their hometown was best?

QuietDragon · 09/09/2023 18:53

Of course, but I would imagine most people who still live where they grew up do so by default rather than because they’ve tried all around the world and decided their hometown was best?

My point is that it has no bearing on how successful or interesting their life has been.