New version of my child

[Alterego12]

First full week back at school for DS, he has been horrendous! I genuinely feel so heartbroken and exhausted!

I forgot that this happens when he goes back to school after a break (he's in year 1 now).

I honestly don't think I've had to tell him off a single time during the summer holidays, he's been happy, funny, lovely.

This week he is like a totally different child, constantly whinging/fake crying/rude/not listening to anything I ask.

I know it's mostly just tiredness but oh my god, it's brutal. Is it just us?

My youngest is year 3 and he's cried every day this week 🤣
Over absolutely nothing!

Oh my goodness, I could have written this post myself. He's been lovely over the summer, I was actually sad to see him go back to school! He has gone back and I don't know if tired or what but just hard work, argumentative, impolite.
I actually felt like crying on the school run because of how he was talking to me.

Same age too, just gone in to year 1!

I'm sorry you are going through this but your posts have made me feel reassured that it's not just us.

It's heartbreaking really as we have such a strong bond usually but now I'm turning into an impatient irritated parent, he's just been SO testing. @Mama22b I get it, I cried last night once he was in bed.

He's been waking extra early every morning too despite being tired, so he has progressively gotten worse through the week.

Really hoping my lovely little boy comes back for the weekend!

Hope you have a better weekend. I'm sure they'll get back to normal once they've settled more. Year 1 is a big change from reception so I keep trying to be patient and as understanding as I can but it's hard work!

I was wfh yesterday morning with the living room window open and the people walking to the nearby school were just a parade of crying children and shouty frazzled parents. The park after school was absolute meltdown city. DS's two friends had a humdinger of a screaming match at each other over nothing then sobbed their eyes out. Heat isn't helping. Have a nice restful weekend and hopefully it will settle.

I appreciate it's not an option for everyone, but this is the main reason I took my DD out of school. She was a horribly angry, whiny, truculent child and an absolute nightmare to deal with; she barely slept, refused to do anything she was asked and started being mean even to the cats and her baby brother.

Two weeks after I pulled her out I had my daughter back.

She's autistic, which may be relevant, but reducing the social stress made such a difference.

It is amazing how much if an impact it has. Mine is the opposite - out of school routine he was really hard work over the summer. We had a lovely time but he was so volatile. One week of school and he's much calmer

My 9yo had a huge breakdown over forgetting to eat his snack the other day - it was definitely not about the snack, they are just shattered.

So interesting to hear other's experiences.

@VikingLady yes social stress resonates. DS has always been a bit like this, when he was at nursery he would have a horrible couple of hours after pick up every day where he would just 'decompensate', a lot of screaming, crying, tantruming and lashing out. Sometimes it started before I could even put him in the car.

I definitely felt that he was absorbing all these emotions through the day and keeping them in until I was there and then it would just explode.

I'm glad you could make it work for your DD by taking her out of school.

I woke up full of hope and promise this morning but we've already had a bad episode this morning in the park. I'm so not used to it I had no idea what to do! Hopefully he got it out of his system early and the rest of the weekend will be OK!