2 weeks to reunion: WWYD?

[MidlifeConfusion]

You're a stone heavier, 20 years older, with far less hair. In short, you're a mess. You want to survive the reunion with a modicum of dignity, but your self-esteem is through the floor. You've got 13 days to make the best of things... what do you do? Buy? Undergo?! Help, please...

Tbh? I'd ask myself what the reunion will bring to my life. Joy? Excitement? Looking forward to a night out with people I've not seen, or even kept in touch with, for years?

Personally, I'd reconsider going if you already have anxiety. If these are people you've kept in touch with, then they'll still love you for you. So definitely go in that case.

But, if these people are now effectively strangers, you're referring to how you feel you might look to others and how they may judge. Well, sod them! They'll be fat, grey, balding, nervous, all of those things.

So, in short, if there will be people you can't wait to see, then go. If it's causing you anxiety and its a fomo reason for going then stay at home, get a takeaway and wait for the gossip after its over.

We all get older, and I imagine the majority of people there will also be heavier. It’s natural to have a little wobble, and I’m sure many of the others going will be feeling the same, but don’t overthink it.
Book the hairdressers for a wash and blow dry, buy a fabulous outfit and enjoy catching up with people.

Everyone will be 20 years older. Agree with advice to wear something you feel great in and get your hair done

Instead of buying stuff or undergoing treatments, try to get to the bottom of this feeling. Everyone is going to be 20 years older. So it is really the weight. Is it the judgement of people that you are concerned about? What you perceive they might think when they see you haven’t (supposedly) aged well? Is it comparison to others? Is it your ego that you want to look the best of them because you always have? I think exploring these feelings from a place of love and acceptance is important. And then think about your health. If you need to lose weight start your diet, but weigh loss is a long journey so you wouldn’t be slim in two weeks.

I'd fake my own death. But that's just me.

@notprincehamlet amazing! It may yet come to that...

@LoraPiano with the best will in the world, I don't have enough time to plumb the depths of my low self worth! I know what you're saying, I do, and I wish was able to approach this rationally and kindly. But the bottom line is, I've weighed it up and feel it would be worse regretting not going... but yes, my ego is sore from not being the knockout I suspect I once was in the face of ex-lovers and effing multi millionaires. The daft thing is, I'm actually pretty happy... I have a lovely DH, gorgeous DC, am healthy and have a job I enjoy.

Blow dry it is...!