The world of my kids friendships is new to me. I’m neurodivergent and never had many close friends at school, but this isn’t about me…
DD 8 has additional needs, mainly related to her speech & academic ability and she has gross motor skill delays and I am pushing for OT for a dyspraxia assessment. Despite all this she’s the most kind, loving and confident girl who often doesn’t see the bad in anyone. I also believe she could be on the spectrum like her older brother, DS!
there’s this one girl she’s known since nursery age, but I feel her friend is becoming less of a good friend as they age, there’s a whole list of things that have annoyed me, but sometimes it goes over dd’s head which could either be a good or a bad thing I guess 🤷♀️
her ‘friend’ often says mean things like ‘you have easy books and I’m much better than you’ ‘or you can’t do stuff properly’. She’s also quite bossy and over powering. She’s come over the house a couple times and told dd that she wants to take some of her belongings home as they are ‘best friends’. I did not let this happen.
she’s also made comments on DD’s size. Dd is quite tall like me but her friend is quite petite!
but often she will leave dd out of their friendship group saying mean things.
a few times recently she has been playing g with dd at school and sometimes out of school her friend will take stuff off her like a hair band or something and run off it knowing dd cannot keep up then chucks it somewhere dd can’t reach. I had to intervene yesterday when I witnessed it. Dd got upset, she’s very protective & sentimental of her belongings!
I am going to email school but worried I’ll be told it is just kids being kids…
dd sees this girl as a friend and is very forgiving!
I don’t know what to say or do!
any advice?