I've been friends with G for approximately 21 years. We met at a baby group, we have DDs the same age and we grew really close. The girls were best friends and we spent a lot of time together until the girls got to about 11 and developed different interests and wanted to spend more time with other friends. She was genuinely a really good friend to me.
We continued to see each other but less often and I was always happy to catch up with her until 2020 and the pandemic struck. She is a covid/ vaccine conspirancy nut and as I was shielding she really pissed me off. She also didn't respect my boundaries for example trying to hug me mid pandemic when I met up with her briefly. She also kept trying to use me like a taxi service. I would mostly avoid answering her messages and calls but we would talk occasionally but she kept dumping her relationship problems on me so I started blanking her more and was eventually really blunt about the fact I wouldn't be giving her lifts.
She had sent me some how are you messages over the past week and I ignored them but then answered a call from her tonight. Her useless waster alcoholic boyfriend had tried to leave her so she ended up chasing him down the street and grabbed him. In her version she got emotional and was trying to kiss and cuddle him to persuade him to stay but the witnesses who phoned the police said she had him in a head lock and was kicking and punching him. I was genuinely shocked that she was violent because she's a gentle person despite all of her other faults. I'm not excusing her behaviour in any way, I'm genuinely shocked,
She was given a restraining order for a month a couple of weeks ago and has already broken it by going to his house so it has been extended for another 3 months. She wants him to tell the courts to drop the order and also hopes he won't testify against her at the next hearing which is in October.
She had hinted at me about giving her a lift to collect her stuff but I just ignored it. She then told me she had been talking to my adult niece recently and DN had said she would give her a lift to Xtown (where her ex lives) sometime as she goes there a lot.
I talked to my DN after that phone call and it turns out she had asked for a lift to pick up her stuff but not told her anything about the restraining order. I am so furious I am shaking, I can't believe she would try to drag my lovely niece into her mess, especially when it is highly likely she would be arrested again.
Obviously ignoring her hasn't worked in the past as she keeps contacting me so how do I officially end the friendship? I've been told to block her and move on but I feel like I want to tell her directly why I want nothing more to do with her. I've already sent her a message (which she hasn't read yet) telling her how angry I am for trying to get my niece involved but I don't know what else to say to her to make it clear I don't want anything to do with her.