Why do grown ups adults take the piss spelling /grammar

[Easystuff]

Not just here but other social media places to. Why do people feel the need to correct people's spellings and grammar or even take the piss out of it. There are so many people that claim to be intelligent and cleaver. But yet they don't seem to have the brains to understand dyslexia and other learning difficulties are quite common. And on top of that spelling is not even the subject of the thread.

So why do people do it. Do they look good, does it make them feel big, do they feel smart. Are they trying to make the other person look silly .

It's very rare that someone posts anything completely incomprehensible, and even then, you can ask for clarification without being a dick.

Language is just a tool for communication - its purpose is to allow people to express themselves. We don't expect people who are upset or angry to speak in perfect English so why set the bar so high for the much harder medium of the written word?

I don't mind spelling/grammar mistakes so much (apart from the loose lose thing) it's the incessant fucking waffling that does my nut in. Get to the fucking point people.

Which tends to be a common feature of wall of text posts.
But there's always the back button that can be used in response.

Correcting people really makes you look like a twat.
I had this at work recently, someone making snide comments about typos in a document they thought I had written.
It really enraged me as they had no idea if I was dyslexic or if the person who actually wrote it was.

Because they are insecure and need to feel good about something in their life

It's a tricky one.

There have been times when someone's grammar , on here, has altered the meaning of what they wanted to say , and so responses were skewed.

There are some , quite a few actually, folk who are autistic and get quite tetchy if spelling and grammar rules aren't followed. Similarly, pedantic people find it hard to let an obvious error go.

My , and many other's beef, is the use of 'could/should/would have.'
So many people say 'would/could/should of.'
It doesn't make sense, particularly if you take 'would etc..' out of the sentence.
I've seen people write, 'I of said to him...'
which makes no sense at all.

Dialect is fine, spellings can be easily forgiven but deliberately writing 'Chester draws' instead of 'chest of drawers' is daft.

Language does evolve, as it must, but ignorance is not the way forward if it's nonsensical.

I hate it too. It often gets mentioned as the only come back or reply to a thread. It is pathetic.
FB and MN is not an academic essay. If you can mostly understand what someone is saying, then why correct them? It just makes you look like a bully.

Saying that, I do struggle with huge walls of text. I simply can't read them. But then I don't comment with words to that effect. I just scroll on by.

The original idea of grammar was to make understanding things easier, but local variations can be lovely too. Where I live people say "It needs gone" instead of "It needs to go", which I would never want to correct.

I don't even know how to use grammar.

Yes you do, @Easystuff! All your posts are understandable and contain lots of correct grammar. You have made occasional mistakes, but the vast majority of what you've typed is right.

In that case my phone is doing it for me. The only thing I might do is a Forse stop.

This!

The people who apparently can't handle their own intense annoyance to the point where they have to make people feel humiliated, should deal with their own problems by scrolling by or accepting internet forums are not for them.

The internet is full of people will all different levels of intelligence, education and learning capabilities.

Stick to reading books if you can't accept this.

I can handle the idea that folks ‘aren’t good at it’ or have dyslexia. What I can’t understand is why people would say ‘it doesn’t matter’. The English language has, and will evolve, but let’s not trash it completely. People should at least try.

I think people mean it doesn't matter enough to want to humiliate people who are simply chatting to strangers on the internet.

If it was official documentation then it would matter.

And the point is you have no idea who is/isn't trying or how hard, just by reading their posts.

Poor grammar and spelling drive me nuts! That's because I was brought up in a school system that put a great deal of emphasis on those skills. However I do hold my tongue when seeing such errors online, I'd never be finished otherwise!

If they are trying their best, then they might benefit from someone pointing out the difference between your and you’re?

I don't know the difference and I will forget when told

How unintelligent would a poster have to be though, to think that someone has gone right through from childhood to adulthood without understanding and remembering the difference and they're going to be 'the one' to help them?

No teachers managed it, no parents managed it, no employers managed it but a random Mumsnetter pulling them up on a chat board is going to change that and they'll remember for evermore 🙄

So we need to be tolerant of dyslexia, but not (for instance) autism (which might mean someone is a stickler for grammatical rules and somewhat abrupt?)

But you only need to think to yourself, "am I trying to say YOU ARE in the sentence, or not?" If you are, then it is you're. (Apostrophe indicates missing letter a of are.)

"Could of" is the one that really irritates me.

I will forget though because it won't sink in.

Being a stickler for grammatical rules and somewhat abrupt, doesn't force anyone to type out a message and press 'post', does it?

I'm not autistic myself but having called people out for abruptness /picking on points of grammar etc on here before and had it explained they are autistic, i now try to be far more understanding. Both autism and dyslexia are SEN so I don't see why one ranks above the other actually. Both can be treated with understanding.

Absolutely and all should be treated with understanding.

But everyone needs to understand that we're not forced to tell people what we think of their poor grammar/spelling.

Although I guess there may be a very minuscule percentage of MNetters with a compulsive disorder, that means they absolutely have to.

But even then they'll be aware of their own disorder and could perhaps mention it to the person they've just humiliated.