WhenTheSunDoesntShineAndItsCloudyAndGrey ·
03/09/2023 14:59
that if the media - magazines, films, SM etc didn't present such a limited view of what it is to be an attractive woman, we would all just care less?
I've just looked out of my bedroom window and seen my neighbour gardening in tiny shorts and a bikini top. She is slim, tanned, quite tall - the ideal figure. I think I have quite a nice figure albeit completely different to hers. I'm shorter, size 12, bit 'chubby' in places. I wouldn't look starved if I lost a stone! Totally different body shape in general. Yet I still had a pang of 'oof she looks so much better than me?'
Does she though? Or just she just meet the current 'beauty standards' better than me?
I've seen posts recently from women calling themselves ugly. Posts from women worried about their bodies after children. Posts about men who've made negative comments about women's appearances in dating situations.
If we hadn't been told that certain body shapes, types, physical features were attractive would they still be 'preferred'?
I know that theres a multibillion pound industry behind women feeling bad ablut themselves. I know that some women on here have never experienced negative comments regardless of size/shape when dating and we see people of all sizes and shapes in loving relationships and being a supermodel doesn't stop you from being cheated on. But I'm not really talking about that.
Just the general sense of what is universally accepted as being attractive. Is that the case purely because we are told it is? If we didn't focus so much on it or if women's different body shapes were represented more, in the same way men's are perhaps, would a wider range of women's bodies be generally accepted as attractive? Would we be judged less?
I hope this makes sense and doesn't offend. I'm comfortable with my body, but it doesn't meet any of the beauty norms i don't think and I am aware/conscious of that. But would I, or anyone else, even care about a little bit of a tummy or the shape/size of our breasts or our bums or our noses or whatever else if no one had told us we should? And would anyone else care either?