I kissed a man I shouldn't have

[Hairush]

It's nothing awful, we're both single, but he's someone I know from my circle and who I've never liked, he's a "difficult" man. One of those middle aged men people who may have good intentions but is outspoken and often upsets people, sometimes seemingly for the fun of it. I don't think he likes the way I don't fall for his nonsense either - he does have women who seem to hang onto his opinions, I've never been one.

I couldn't really tell you how it happened, but it was at a wedding and it was amazing. It's a really long time since I've had a weak at the knees kiss like that. I think we both frightened each other with the power of it. Or of course I imagined the whole thing.

Anyway, I've since found myself thinking maybe strong opinions in a man are a good thing, maybe I've misunderstood him etc etc.... I shall see him at a party tonight and need to get my head in order. Help?!

@Hairush girl, no! Take those cock goggles off and look at him in the harsh reality of who he really is.

He is argumentative, stubborn, and arrogantly disrespectful. Do you think he will suddenly change to become a great partner because of a kiss? No chance!

These personality flaws are deep rooted and probably the reason he has never settled down into a loving relationship.

Great chemistry doesn't mean he will be a great partner. If you can be friends with benefits, go for it but don't let him be anything more until time has passed and you've seen real changes in him.

Otherwise it will end in a broken heart and you have to know that.

I know, I know, I know....

He's not even very good friend material

I went out with a guy for a whole year that was a bit like that. We got together after a heated debate turned into a passionate kiss. He was a twat and turned out that his lack of consideration for others made him rubbish in bed. Don’t do it!

Cock goggles! 😂

Cock goggles! That is an actual thing, I've just realised 😂

Is he Mr. Darcy?

You are so going to snog him tonight OP.

Cock goggles

Never heard that expression before but absolutely love it!

One night stands are not illegal dontcha know........😉

Just treat it as a bit of fun and you'll be ok.

She'll do well getting me pregnant at my age 🤣

Have some fun

COCK GOGGLES

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆

(Calms down a bit).

Nature wants you pregnant.

She does not care how.

Maybe he smells good, has nice feeling skin, some muscle.

This is no indication of what your life would be like with a man you don't actually like.

It could be hell.

Mind you she'd have a job getting me up the duff too at 60 - but I was working with a rude, clumsy, self centred 30 something last week and OMG the FANTASIES

Have a one night stand by all means
but absolutely do not romanticise it, don’t be a pick me girl, who he makes feels special and not like the other girls.
Don’t be talking about the power of your connection. That would all be going down a disastrous path with feelings and ego mixed in (no judgement)
Just have an excellent shag and move on.

Girlllll have your fun but be under no illusion that it'll be anything other than that.

You don't need to talk to him 😉

If it was a good kiss, I think you should shag him and see if he’s any good. You don’t have to marry him, live with him or even date him - you could just use him for sex if he is good in bed.

I had this earlier this year with a (single) colleague.
He was, and still is- an arrogant, rude, selfish, self centred, abrupt, ill mannered complete arsehole of the highest order. No doubt about it. It oozes out of every pore of him.
The contempt we felt for each other was absolutely palpable.

Then one day something changed and we absolutely HAD to have each other. It was phenomenal, and more than once.

He was transferred out of branch. I don't miss him, he's still a dick and I still can't reconcile the reasoning behind it! Maybe we just both loved the challenge or had to conquer each other, who knows! I don't regret it either though, so......🤷🏼‍♀️

Hmm. Well I didn't kiss him, although I seem to recall telling him how wonderful he smells.

I was distracted by a perfect stranger I met on the night. This one was a younger model (not obscenely young but a decade younger than me) I don't know what's the matter with me but at 53, I'm giving people something to talk about for the first time in my life 😆

Getting old and giving up caring what others think is fun.