What do you do when your attitude stinks?

[Babaganoo]

How do you get yourself out of a bad mood?

So for example tonight after work I fed DS (13 months), he whinged and shouted the whole time. We played. He tantrummed. DH came back from work and we did bath and getting ready for bed together as usual. I put DS to bed. DH didn't want tea so I started cooking myself something. DS woke up crying and it has to be me who goes up there otherwise he screams. Back down to finish cooking my tea. DS wakes again. Back down to eat my tea. And I am just so pissed off. Didn't even enjoy my fish finger sandwich lol.

DS doesn't do this all the time, just the past few nights, and DH does his fair share of everything so I don't really have a reason to be raging but I am. And I hate feeling like this. End up being quiet and short with DH and he's done nothing wrong. Ruins the evening.

Anyone got any techniques to get yourself out of these bad funks quick sharp? Or just general tips on how to be more patient and less of a moody cow...

A shower often resets me.

Wine, chocolate and TV of your choice.

Listen to Give that wolf a banana.

Exercise
Or a hot shower with some angry music

Shut myself away and do a bit of crafting. Cross stitch or knitting are both good for taking your brain off the hook for a while.

Usually I check my app, realise it’s the middle or the end of the month and go ‘ah’ and then go to bed with a book where nothing can go wrong.

Scream into a pillow

Honestly I'm just normally honest with my husband and say 'sorry I'm a bitch, I'm in a bad mood because I'm tired etc. just ignore me' then get a bath and have some alone time

@AnneLovesGilbert I'd never heard of it. Did a google. It's fantastic

@MiddleParking funnily enough I'm having my first period since DS was born and I shit you not it's been going on for over 3 weeks so that could well be playing a part in my rage

Ahhhh! I've had 3 periods since having DS (11 months) and my good god I am ANGRY a few days before they turn up and during. So I'm here without suggestions (because I'm currently raging) but with rage-y solidarity.

I was in A Mood after work so I turned the volume up on the music in my car and sang along really badly tunefully until I'd shaken my mood off.

I listened to a woman's hour program ages ago where a couple of angry women mentioned the relief of taking a baking tray/ pot out to the back garden / balcony and bashing the tray or pot base to drown out all other sounds. It sounded cathartic.

I know it's not what you asked but you really need to stop this. There will come a time when you can't even go out to the cinema because of it but DH can, you can read multiple threads on here where the child has reached 6 yrs and the mother is still tied down in the evenings. Your DH and DS need this bond too (plus what happens if you are rushed to hospital?).

DS woke up crying and it has to be me who goes up there otherwise he scream

I find it really hard to snap myself out of a bad mood. I had this on the weekend and was so overwhelmed and stressed with life it for the better of me.

I usually go quiet and clean/tidy. Seeing things tidy usually snaps me out of it, or a cuddle with my little ones and tbh, sometimes just crying gets it all out.

@trampoline123 I'm the same with tidying. And crying tbf. I cry when I'm angry which is actually really annoying!

@HorribleHisTories15 ha I might try this! Neighbours and the dog might think I've finally lost it though

@CantThinkOfANameAtAll I was wondering when someone would chime in about this... DH can, and has, settled him during the night. I just choose to do it for ease. He has only been waking once in the wee hours recently so idk if he's teething or what at the minute but I'd rather not prolong his upset right now. We've only just got over a very long period of DS being hysterical if I left him with DH (massive separation anxiety) so we're just taking it one step at a time.

Yesterday I got home to two teenagers, friends round and an absolute shit tip of a house. I shouted at them and then left again. Went to Starbucks, got a hot chocolate, sat and cried for a bit and then went home. DH was home by then and had made them do some tidying.

work is a bin fire at the moment (I work in public sector property management so you can probably guess why) and I just needed some space.

I watch the episode of Graham Norton with Miriam margoyles and Will.I.Am. Or the clip of the Danish Prime Minister getting the giggles in Parliament. Or an episode of QI.

My periods were horrendous post pregnancy. I had never had bad PMS (very lucky) but -and I’m not even making it as serious as it was so as not to trigger anyone - I had awful dark thoughts and mood swings when my periods came back. I couldn’t work out what was wrong with me. I found tracking my cycle really helpful so that whenever I got in a funk I could check the app and go “ohhhh ok, this happened same time last month” as nearly often it was cycle related. Not saying you have to put up with hormone mood swings, but it was enough for me to realise there was an explanation and I wasn’t going mad, and in time the symptoms lessened.

I either have a quick shower, do some rage cleaning with headphones in or do a bit of crafting shut away in our spare room. The activity depends on the amount of time.

If DH is home from work, leave the kids with him and go walk the dog for an hour even if it's raining - then im calmer! If this is not an option - loud music and rage cleaning, followed by bath once I'm a bit calmer!

I get pms a few days before I'm due on and I get so short tempered and snappy - I do usually apologise to kids and DH if I've been particularly unreasonable and shouty! But to be fair the kids have usually pushed me to the limits with either constant arguing or their pig sty rooms and I've finally snapped so my shouting does kick them up the bum to sort their mess!

I forgot sometime I do colouring - but that doesn't really help when im full on rage mode, it can be calming once the worst of the rage is over though!