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People Not Noticing New Hairstyles, Colour Etc

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RabbitsRock · 30/08/2023 12:44

It’s the funniest thing & always seems to happen to me. I have a big group of work colleagues, some of whom I work very closely with, but only 2 of them noticed my new hair colour & cut. It was looking awful before as I hadn’t had a trim in quite a few months & had a mixture of grey & patchy colours from what I had done in December. Now it’s a lovely shiny dark red & I have a longish bob which suits me better than anything I’ve tried in the past. But my friends outside of work were exactly the same & even my parents didn’t remark on it! Maybe folks don’t ever really look at each other properly, even family.

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Bluebarss · 30/08/2023 12:52

I think it's like that word trick, you know where the first and last lett are correct but the middle letters are jumbled and you can still read it? People know you well and they just expect to see what they always see and fill in the gaps.

WandaWonder · 30/08/2023 13:04

A massive dramatic change maybe but no I notice people with what they say not how they look

Holly60 · 30/08/2023 13:09

I don't know why you are assuming they haven't noticed. I'm sure they've noticed .

What you actually mean is they've not complimented you on it. Maybe they don't really like it?

But you like it, so that is what matters

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BoBoHill · 30/08/2023 13:12

I hate it when people comment on a new haircut it gives me massive anxiety and is one the reasons I rarely get my hair done. For that reason I don’t generally comment on other people’s haircuts

dontgobaconmyheart · 30/08/2023 13:20

I do think that if there's been a noticeable change and nobody has really complimented it that's more likely to be to do with the fact they don't really like it and can't think of anything to say.

Ultimately that doesn't mean it objectively looks bad, and as long as you are happy with it that's essentially the whole purpose of the cut isn't it - to get something you feel good having and that you like how you look in the mirror.

Kwasi · 31/08/2023 07:23

It’s probably one of two reasons:

  1. They don’t like it, so better not to mention it.
  2. Your new do suits you so much that people don’t actually notice it’s not how it usually is.

I am a brunette and hadn’t coloured my hair in decades. Greys got the better of me, so paid a small fortune for ballyage. Two people over two months commented on it. I absolutely hate it and regret having it done (even though it does mask the grey), so I assume other people also think it looks awful.

toadasoda · 31/08/2023 07:38

I got nearly 3 inches off mine and went a shade darker the other day, met my DH and kids immediately after in a cafe. Neither DH nor 2 boys noticed. After about half an hour, remembering where I'd been, DH suddenly went 'I love your hair' and when I said 'oh is it different then?' he couldn't reply, ha ha. My little girl noticed the second she laid eyes on me. Some people have remarkably poor observation skills I think. In a way I find it reassuring if I gain weight or have a pimple or generally look crap as they are oblivious.

hdbs17 · 31/08/2023 07:44

BoBoHill · 30/08/2023 13:12

I hate it when people comment on a new haircut it gives me massive anxiety and is one the reasons I rarely get my hair done. For that reason I don’t generally comment on other people’s haircuts

This.

Being complimented makes me feel awkward and self conscious so I don't do it others in case they react the same.

Just because someone doesn't mention something, doesn't mean they haven't noticed.

Metatarse · 31/08/2023 08:20

I think some people are neutral natural complimenters and others aren't. I know exactly which colleagues/ friends will notice new clothes/ hair etc and which ones won't. Equally, I'm rubbish at it. I'll notice and mean to say something, but then just won't. I always kind of assume the person will know their hair/outfit looks good, otherwise they wouldn't be out in it.

I accept, that's not a normal way of looking at this though.

Timeforabiscuit · 31/08/2023 08:24

I only say it to people I know usually take alot of time and effort over their appearance, as I know it goes over well.

I recently found out through mumsnet that saying a generic you look lovely today is actually one of the most cunty things to say to a person and is secret code for you look like a heffer - so I'm avoiding talking about appearance!

SisterAgatha · 31/08/2023 08:27

I went blonde and my mother didn’t notice.

i also wear glasses and have people tell me, oh that person is your double, and when I look… nothing like me just someone wearing glasses. So I’m inclined to agree that people don’t look massively closely.

Scousemousey · 31/08/2023 09:16

People seem to comment less these days. I think they are afraid of giving offence, sadly. It can be a minefield.

Johnnybegood2 · 31/08/2023 14:22

This exactly!

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