Baby still crying at drop off

[showmethegin]

My 14 month old son is still crying at every single drop off after 11 weeks at his nursery! Did anyone else go through this?

It's a highly rated and recommended setting but surely he should be settled after all this time? I'm told he settles down after a while but I feel so uneasy about this

Our DD did calm down after about 5/6 weeks. I can sympathise how hard it is at first. She was also about 14months when she started nursery.

A few tips that we used:

• We started to really talk to her about going to nursery from the evening before, (i.e. was she going to have fund playing with her friends (and naming them), naming the staff there too). All to get her used to the idea from the night before that she would be going again in the morning.
• We also smiled and were as cheery as possible at drop off (just to show her it was positive experience).
• Finally we kept drop off brief. The longer I hung around she would seem to cry more and still would today if I stayed talking too long.
• She also chose a toy for ages to take in (even though they didn't recommend it as it might get lost) it made her feel better so they agreed.

You may be doing all of this, but if it not maybe try these things. If they don't help I'd try and have a chat with the keyworker there soon.

Thanks for the advice, I do most of this but I don't take a toy, he's obsessed with his football at the moment so might take that! It's so stressful isn't it. I just don't know if it's going on too long?

Are there some kids that just always cry?!

I keep thinking about changing setting but if he's just a kid that cries at drop off this seems unnecessarily traumatising for no benefit!

Yes, sorry to say, but there are.
DS1 cried on his first day at childcare, and then never again, he used to love going to nursery and school. DS2 not so much, but he didn't cry , but DS3 cried every single day on leaving me until he was 6.
He did like it when he was there, enjoyed the activities and the company, just didn't like separating from me. He cried less if someone else took him, so we tried to work with that!

DD loved nursery. But hated drop off and pick up. Cried until 3yo. Was fine as soon as I left.

As she got older she could verbalise it as she wanted to show me how much fun it was. Shes 10 now and struggles a bit at school if I come in for Mothers day session etc.

Everyday for 3 years my ds cried at drop off, well howled blue murder rather than cried. The nursery staff told me he soon settled and he always seemed ok at pick up time. I remember once I was so upset by the howling I sat in the car and howled myself. I then decided to go into the nursery, pick up ds, take him home, quit work etc etc (not sure I was really thinking rationally at this point). Anyway, I went back into the nursery and there he was sitting on a nursery workers lap smiling away and clapping his hands to the song 'if you're happy and you know it'. I turned around and went to work! Some kids just get in the habit I think OP.