Would you report your partner to the police if they confessed a crime?

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No confession here, but I read a news story about a man who confessed to his fiancée that he’d been involved in a hit and run and buried the body and he kept that secret for a few years. Confessed to her, showed her where the body was hurried and she reported him to the police.

She actually got vilified by the locals too which is crazy to me.

I’d like to think I’d do the same, but I guess hard to tell without actually experiencing that situation first hand.

I think I'm with most of the pp. Serious crime eg assault, murder, rape, child abuse hell yes I would report.

Something minor like shoplifting or speeding no. I have actually accidentally shop lifted, put a pair of ( cheep) earing on the front of the trolley I tesco then did my shop. I forgot about them and o ly spotted them when I got to the till, was too embarrassed to go back so stuck them in a bag. I have told my partner this and he didn't run down to tesco to report me. If I had done something like you described I absolutely would expect him to.

I bet the hard reality of actually reporting this is very different to the notion of 'what would I do'.
I don't know what I'd do.
She is very brave, and lots of things must have gone through her mind.
I suspect I would be scared of retribution. I suspect I would be tempted to choose to believe a sob story as to how it wasn't really his fault.
I suspect I would convince myself that as I was nothing to do with it I should keep out of it.

Exactly this

This lax attitude to speeding is what facilitates speeding cars into effective murder weapons. But hey ho. It's all fine, until it isn't!

Definitely would report murder or rape, and drunk or dangerous driving. Anything that harms other people.

Pretty sure my husband or kids wouldn't do the above though.

Child abuse yes even if we had been together for years. Don't know if I could shop my child but would force him into some kind of therapy. Murder it really depend on the circumstances.

Anything else most likely to not.

This also highlights why bikes should be off road use only!

Yes

Yes, I would.

I also say depends on the crime. The one referenced - definitely! Killed someone and buried the body. Awful

Yes for any crime other than minor driving offence

yes even for fraud and theft - I don’t want to be with someone capable of that

i Agree with PP depends on the crime and I love seeing that everyone has a different line on when they would report them.

I’ve seen a few people saying they wouldn’t but drug dealing but that’s defo on my list

If it was a new partner/friend who confessed then I'd definitely tell on them. But I also ran the scenerio through as if it were my son and initially thought yeah I'd still turn him in, then I thought if he had displayed some kind of behaviour as a result (e.g turned his life around, or racked with guilt and spiralled) then I would just anonymously report so that the family could have closure. Then I realised that the body could provide evidence linking my son which could then get him sent to prison but I couldn't live with knowing there is a family who have no idea what happened to their loved one and I know where the body is no matter how reformed/damaged my son has become as a result. But then I'd feel guilty sending him to prison if he was reformed/damaged as nothing good would come of that either/he is already suffering. It's a tough one.

Fraud and financial crimes are tricky though. Most people would know they should report it, and probably would do if it was a significant amount stolen by someone other than a partner. Doing the right thing is more difficult to convince yourself when you are worried about losing your home etc if paid for with the stolen money (unknown to you so you had nothing to do with the original crime).

There is a really good fiction book by Liane Moriarty about this type of situation. Called “The husband’s secret”. Definitely worth a read. The twist at the end is amazing.

I would give a deadline to do it himself if not of course plus telling me and me not doing anything I would presume would mean I was committing a crime?