Why am treat differently in friend groups??

[itsmummyk]

Hi, I was out with what I would consider one of my good friends last night and she ended up meeting another friend whilst she was with me, they then started talking over me whenever I tried to say anything and walking ahead of me and almost immediately my friend started asking me when I was leaving. Anyway my question is what is it that I'm doing wrong? because it happens with every friend group I have had throughout life it's almost like I don't fit in anywhere, When my friends have conversations with strangers on a night out no one includes me and if I do try join in well again I get ignored. I also say things to try fit in and make people laugh and I seem to just annoy people by doing so. I am friendly and welcoming but people just don't want to know me.

I think you’re the only one who can really answer that. If it happens in literally all your friendship groups, over a considerable period of time, either you are uniformly choosing unpleasant people as ‘friends’ (in which case you need to ask yourself serious questions about why and about your self-esteem) or your attempts to ‘fit in’ are so nakedly people-pleasing they suggest neither liking nor respect for the people you’re attempting to ‘fit in’ with, or for yourself.

Do you like these people you describe as friends, but who don’t seem to treat you well? Why?

I agree with above, but also wonder how much of this is your perception ?
Often when there is a group, people don't hear what one person says or don't "get" what you are saying, or just happen to be tuned into someone else at the time. You think this happens to you so you notice the odd occasion when it does whereas people who are more comfortable socially don't really register it.