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If you're single what do you do at the weekend?

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Sunflowers76 · 27/08/2023 07:50

When DC at his dad's I feel like I don't know what to do with myself. Spent all day yesterday by myself and will do today as well. Its pouring with rain. I just don't know how to fill my weekends.

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Sunflowers76 · 27/08/2023 07:50

Sorry meant DS

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Perfectlystill · 27/08/2023 07:52

I'm not single but DH often takes the DC to his parents so I have weekends to myself.

I do some form of exercise even if I don't want to (gym/swimming/run).

I look up delicious healthy recipes and go shopping for the ingredients then make a huge amount and freeze individual portions.

I then cook something really delicious for the return of the DC.

And I go and drink gin with girlfriends.

IHeartGeneHunt · 27/08/2023 07:52

I've always got my daughter with me but we go to museums, national trust places sometimes, a cafe, things like that.
If it's ever just me I go to the cinema or for a day trip to a different city.

BeaBachinasec · 27/08/2023 07:57

Why not have a look on Meet Up and find a social group to hang out with.

Unmute · 27/08/2023 07:57

When ds isn't at home I walk the dog, clean the house, read, exercise, go out for coffee, listen to podcasts and just generally potter about. I quite like a weekend to myself occasionally, but ds is leaving for uni next week so I think I will need to find a few more things to fill my time.

Unmute · 27/08/2023 07:58

Not next week, the week after. Phew, a few more days with him!

Papillon23 · 27/08/2023 08:05

Go for bike rides in the countryside, take a book to a pub and have a pint (or combine bike ride to pub, with book). Cycle to the seaside and people watch. Go to the gym or for a swim.

Have friends over for lunch. Have friends over for dinner. Go out for dinner or lunch or brunch. Go for a walk with friends, with or without picnic. Go to a national trust place, with or without friends/family.

Sit and read my book. Do some sewing in front of the TV. Catch up on chores that aren't easy to squeeze into the week - like washing the car etc. Do some more experimental cooking that requires a decent chunk of time.

I think that covers about 85% of it.

Basically you can divvy it into 3 categories:

  1. Exercise. With or without friends. Generally try and make it something I actively want to do.
  1. Seeing friends, with or without food.
  1. Home based hobbies and chores.
samestyle · 27/08/2023 08:08

Eat chocolate and watch YouTube, tidy the house up, if it's sunny I might go to the beach, go to a shopping centre, sometimes meet a friend or go a date.

MintJulia · 27/08/2023 08:09

Yesterday.
Parkrun,
Haircut
Food shopping where I ran in to one of the other school mums for a quick chat
Home for lunch then...
blackberry picking
made bramble jelly.
Pimms in the garden in the last of the sunshine
Hoovering, folding washing etc
Have a supper that ds won't eat (fish)
Bath, bed, book

Today
Leisurely breakfast
Label the bramble jelly and stash away
Put up curtain rails and finish new curtains
Probably a bit of gardening
Karate class
DS back
Make supper, get an update, plan for Monday

Monday
Breakfast
School shoe shopping
Village fete
I'll probably make a cake to celebrate DS being home 🙂

Toddlerteaplease · 27/08/2023 08:15

Coffee shops with a good book, church, NT places. All sorts

Ragwort · 27/08/2023 08:19

What sort of things do you like doing? We are all different, I am not single but DH and I always do our own thing at weekends .. this morning he is off to play golf and I am going to church and volunteering afterwards. Tomorrow he will go on a hike and I will visit my elderly DM. Maybe we are unusual but we always socialise separately Grin.

TreesWelliesKnees · 27/08/2023 08:22

I don't get weekends to myself as I'm a lone parent, but whenever I get any time to myself it's basically friends, house, exercise, pamper, read. Lovely!

Bananasplitlady · 27/08/2023 08:29

Varies greatly depending on mood and motivation.
Some weekends I go out (museum/gallery/ gig/ restaurant), meet friends, go away for the night, do some gardening, catch up on work.
Other weekends I stay in bed for 48 hours only getting up for a wee and to get more coffee or lie on the sofa for a Netflix binge.

R4ID · 27/08/2023 08:39

DH goes to football every weekend so I have a whole day and night to myself. Before I was chronically ill I would;

  • Meet friends for a walk, theatre, local market, day trip to another city, festivals, gigs, spa day, night out dancing etc
  • Visit family usually at their home or go out for lunch or dinner
  • Get beauty treatments done
  • Go shopping for clothes or home stuff
  • Go to a Yoga class

Now to manage my illness I have to rest a lot, can’t really walk anywhere or exercise and definitely don’t go out at night! So now I:

  • Meet friends or family for a coffee or lunch or cinema or theatre
  • Pop to the library to stock up on books to read during the week so I can ‘save’ tv shows for the day I’m at home alone
  • Binge watch my favourite shows
  • Sit in the garden and listen to podcasts
  • Do online shopping
  • Get beauty treatments done at home
Ceit · 27/08/2023 08:48

How old is your DS? When my DD was very little, I felt aimless and at a loss when by myself at home. But as she got older, I began to relish the time alone. Sometimes I make plans to meet up with a friend, but often I just enjoy reading, watching something unfamily-friendly on TV, or even doing housework while listening to a podcast - all without interruption.
My suggestion is to note in your diary or phone calendar things you want to do on your free day, so when it comes around you have a full schedule.

VioletCharlotte · 27/08/2023 09:01

My DC are grown up now and I've been single so long that I'm used to being alone at the weekends. I would make plans so that you have a loose structure to the day. For example:
Gym/exercise class in the morning, followed by a coffee in a cafe.
Meet friends for a walk/ pub lunch
Go to a different town or city for a wander round the shops
Visit family

Yesterday I took the dog for a walk and went to Pilates in the morning, the spent the rest of the day tidying up the garden and went to the tip. Today I'm meeting friends for a long walk and coffee at a cafe. This afternoon I need to pop to town. Tomorrow I'm meeting my adult DS for a dog walk (and probably more coffee and cake!)

SpringIntoChaos · 27/08/2023 09:17

BeaBachinasec · 27/08/2023 07:57

Why not have a look on Meet Up and find a social group to hang out with.

Agree...Meet Up transformed my 'miserable single life' into a fantastic single life! I'm always doing something now with a great bunch of people (who have become friends outside of Meet Up too 🥰)

Titicacacandle · 27/08/2023 09:34

I make plans with friends to make sure I get out. I'm absolutely rubbish at making myself do things, even things I want to do, without somone else.

I go out for lunch most Saturdays with my dnan.
I go for a swim with one friend, go for a walk with another,
Go out some weekends for a drink or a meal with friends
Go to the pub
Sometimes read a book or watch telly all day but I can only really do this if I've been busy or I'm hungover as otherwise I hate staying at home.
Last year me and one friend group were really into cold water swimming and paddleboarding but we haven't been this year.
I do like a bike ride but again like bike rides with other people.

Today I really want to go for a walk but no one is free. I'm charging my ear buds so I can listen to a book and go for a walk but whether I'll manage it or not is another thing. I don't know why I can't do things on my own! I have no real passion for anything (apart from music I love dancing around to music whilst I get ready/do chores), I only exercise because it's something to do with my friends, I'd absolutely love to have a hobby or passion I could lose myself into.

Beezknees · 27/08/2023 09:43

Hang out with friends. See my mum. Go for coffee by myself.

MeetMyCat · 27/08/2023 10:05

A lot of people, myself included, seem to struggle with unstructured time? Bank holidays can be a real pain!

EBearhug · 27/08/2023 10:38

Housework, laundry, gardening, get the car cleaned, yoga, swim, run, gym, meet friends, read, watch TV, sew, knit, other arts/crafts, weekend adult education, go to museums, art galleries, theatre, cinema, music, beach, dancing, walk in the country, cycle, go away for weekend to a new place, sometimes even go dating.

Not all of that in the same weekend, mind you!

doitwithlove · 27/08/2023 10:46

In my single days, I enjoyed zumba, caught up on reading, visited relatives/friends and enjoyed garden centres.

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Sunflowers76 · 27/08/2023 10:47

SpringIntoChaos · 27/08/2023 09:17

Agree...Meet Up transformed my 'miserable single life' into a fantastic single life! I'm always doing something now with a great bunch of people (who have become friends outside of Meet Up too 🥰)

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Sunflowers76 · 27/08/2023 10:48

Thank you everyone for suggestions. Tragically I'm kind of glad I'm working tomorrow as otherwise would be three full days alone at home.

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arethereanyleftatall · 27/08/2023 10:50

This is the entire beauty of being single.

Whatever I want!

It's lovely lovely lovely delicious time to do whatever the fuck I want!

For me that means swimming, yoga, yoga retreats, walks - solo and with friends, go out with friends, nothing, sunbathe, garden, read, lie in, have baths, spa days, date (less and less appealing as I build my single life), have sex, go on city breaks.

Whatever I want.