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Did your grandparents leave you anything in their will?

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Gwanda · 26/08/2023 21:45

My Grandmother died 2 years ago. Her husband died when I was a small child.

I was very close to her. Her son is my father, and we are pretty much NC. She had a daughter, and another son that she was NC with since the 1980s.

Her death was not unexpected, but still devastating.

I’m not sure how to word this without sounding grabby. But I am very surprised to not have received anything in her will. She often spoke about jewellery that she wanted me to have. It’s been two years, so I presume I would have been contacted by now.

So I was just wondering, how normal is it for a grandparent to leave money or items of sentimental value to their grandchildren? Or does it all go to their children? If that is the case, I will never have anything of my grandmother’s.

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Tarmaced · 26/08/2023 21:47

Have you obtained a copy of the Will?

DustyLee123 · 26/08/2023 21:48

I wasn’t left anything, it was left to my parents.

Colinthedaxi · 26/08/2023 21:48

Nothing from either grandparents here.

chipsandpeas · 26/08/2023 21:49

nope my grandmother had little and what she left went to my mother and her sister

however i did get her engagement and wedding rings when my mum died

chipsandpeas · 26/08/2023 21:49

oh all other grandparent had died before i was born

CissOff · 26/08/2023 21:52

No, nothing. My grandad wanted my father to split the money with me (which he didn’t…). My other maternal grandparents left it all to their DC and we’ll presumably inherit when they pass.

We did get keepsakes and jewellery but that was decided between the family, it wasn’t stipulated in the will.

11plusmush · 26/08/2023 21:52

Op you can apply to get a copy of the will.
Definitely do that.

Peoples assume that solicitors handle everything, that some great will person 7 handles every thing and gives them what's due.

The reality is there is rarely a solicitor, people grab, hide and take, and it's a bun fight.

The only thing you can do is pay 5 or something quid to see a copy of eoll.

caringcarer · 26/08/2023 21:53

My Gran left everything to my Mum, her only child. My Mum did give me a broach belonging to my Gran though.

BingoBastards · 26/08/2023 21:53

It sounds like getting a copy of the will is the best idea.

If nothing was specified is there any possibility you could ask someone for a memento? Do you have photographs?

pilates · 26/08/2023 21:53

One did

TheFairyCaravan · 26/08/2023 21:53

My Nan left me an emerald ring. She always used to say it was going to be mine from when I was little so it was sort of an unwritten thing. My mum is an only child, and she’d made clear what jewellery she wanted her to have and my brother and sister to have. There was no money to talk of.

My Gran left everything to my dad and my uncle. They divided the jewellery and sentimental objects up between the grandchildren and great grandchildren. I got a gold bangle and the ruby ring my grandfather bought her for her ruby wedding anniversary.

You can get a copy of the will. It’s not expensive and quite easy to do.

DisforDarkChocolate · 26/08/2023 21:54

No, not a bean. There weren't that many beans to leave either.

Someoneonlyyouknow · 26/08/2023 21:54

My grandparents left everything to their children, as did my parents and parents-in-law. Sometimes grandchildren were bought something (watch or jewellery) as a special momento. You can check on UK.gov website to see if probate has been granted and even get a copy of a will. I think often people talk about giving items, particularly jewellery, but don't write it into their will. If it's not very valuable could you contact your aunt who is likely to have inherited?

11plusmush · 26/08/2023 21:55

One side left everything to their numerous adult children and they didn't leave much.
The other side did leave a nice amount to each grandchild and their 3 adult children.

TheBewilderedGoblin · 26/08/2023 21:56

My grandparents had over 30 grandchildren, so no, there wasn’t much to gift everyone something x

Trenchfootinthescottishhighlandstoday · 26/08/2023 21:56

My dgm died unexpectedly.. Her dd - my aunt kept everything.. Even when dgm had spoken often about what she wanted me to have. Including her dgps family heirlooms.. I got nothing Daunt died leaving me a nominal sum and her carer a house worth 375k and all my family's history and worldy goods. Even WWF got a mention...

InTheFutilityRoomEatingBiscuits · 26/08/2023 21:56

Three of my grandparents left me nothing, one left me everything they owned.

I would want to see the will but I would have been pursing it very close to the date of death as the belongings are distributed then. Who was the executor? I’ve been an executor four times and each time the assets were dissolved very soon after death even when they went through probate.

I am sorry you lost her.

HollieHobbie · 26/08/2023 21:57

My Nan gave my older sister her engagement and eternity rings as she wanted them to go down the (family name) route. My sister has never been in a relationship and has never had children so that move backfired!

I've specifically mentioned my jewellery in my will for my dd (she's already wearing most of it as I don't!)

Changingmynameyetagain · 26/08/2023 21:57

My grandmother left each of her 19 grandchildren £1k each, I received a cheque in the post about 6 months after she died from her solicitor.
I wasn’t expecting anything as she has a property (a farm) that passed on to my uncle as he worked the farm with my grandparents.

MajesticWhine · 26/08/2023 21:57

Nothing officially. My mother kindly passed a couple of nice things to me that were left to her by my grandmother.

cariadlet · 26/08/2023 21:58

Nothing.

But 3 died when I was a baby or toddler and I wasn't close to the 4th.

I'm planning on leaving everything to my partner or to my daughter if my partner dies before me.

No grandchildren yet and if they come along later, my dd can give them part of what she inherits if she wants.

On the other hand, MIL has promised jewellery to my dd and I expect that to be in the will.

Lifeetc · 26/08/2023 22:00

I was left a small amount of money which I handed back to the other grandchildren and " allowed" to choose an item from the house (not jewellery) . I didn't take anything.
Complicated family dynamics

xcurlyluciex · 26/08/2023 22:01

My maternal grandmother did, she split things 3 ways between my mum, me and my brother. Completely unexpected but she had everything organised down to the last £. Will be forever grateful.

Would definitely get a copy of the will - unfortunately I had other relatives who say they want to leave x y z to whoever but they never make a will, so it just goes to next of kin.

Shotgunhotsun · 26/08/2023 22:02

Similar situation to you, I’m NC with my father due to his shitty behaviour. Because of how he treated us children my GM left all her estate to us G Kids. Just to make sure he doesn’t get a penny. She saw fit to try and make the wrongs right. I miss her so much, I’d gladly do without a penny to have her back

barbarahunter · 26/08/2023 22:03

Funnily enough, my dear old Grandad came into my mind the other day, and he's been dead a long time. He didn't own much but he left 14 year old me £50 when he died.

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