We moved back to Scorland after many years away when we retired. At the time one of our adult DC came with us and the other moved up a few weeks before independently. My elderly mother lives here . Unfortunately, things quickly went pear shaped. Covid, then DC who had moved independently went back. The DC living with us moved out and doesn’t want to move again out of the area .
Our only grandchild arrived last year and we are finding that constant trips down to visit are expensive and tiring. They can’t come up to us apart from every second Xmas due to work and holidays and the cost of travel. So it’s on us really. We barely see our other DC also because of getting time off and cost of travel. Both adult children live in small flats with no space for us to stay. So accommodation is another factor.
In the time we have lived here I’ve made no friends bar those at a hobby. I don’t get on with my mother and find I am acting as an administrator and general dogsbody as she gets older and more infirm. The DC who had moved out doesn’t make much effort to see us but is vulnerable and has depression, so we are worried about leaving them with no support.
I feel really unhappy, lonely and isolated. I miss better weather , not helped by the fact our house is dark and cold . On the other hand I worry about maki g another mistake as this move must be for a long while.
One of the DC is possibly going abroad in the next few years and the other needs to be based near in laws for childcare but they can’t afford to buy. Our thought is to move a maximum two hours away from them by train.
what should we do?