I had to take time off @mumsnet because I was finding some of the malice aimed at mums very depressing. So, instead of going away and feeling sad about this, I would like to start a thread to say that I adored my mum, I was devastated when she died, I think about her almost every day, and I wish I had told her more often how loved she was. If MNetters could pause, if only briefly, to consider how they will feel when their terrible mums aren't there any more, it would help the many people in my position. No need to reply unless it is to say something positive. Thanks and enjoy your day.