Husband just left me - can't go to work

[Phantosmia]

My h of 16yrs left me today. Unexpected. I am a snotty crying mess. I work in a public facing role but I can't deal with it .

I've only been at this job for a month, is it too soon to ask for time off? I just need a day to pull myself together and pack up some stuff. How do I ask my boss?

I'm a business owner. I can hand on heart say if one of my employees told me this it wouldn't have an effect on their continued employment or my opinion of them (as in them asking for some time off would be fine).
I'd tell the truth, there's no shame in it. You may find like others have said that once you have sorted the practicalities you may feel better at work. Take it a day at a time. You will find support here OP, so many have been I similar situations. The relationships board may be a good place to post for practical and emotional advice.

Oh OP this is awful.

Something very similar happened to me when my husband left me. He told me on the Sunday it was over and off he went.

I text my manager the next morning and said my husband has left me and there’s just no way I can come into the office. I did offer to go the GP and seek a sick note but she said no (I think realistically this was because she knew I’d likely take longer if I got signed off versus just taking a couple of days for myself).

I took the week off, I cried, screamed, did a lot of walking with the dog, ran for miles, dyed my hair and made a list of the good things about a single life out of that marriage.

you will be ok.

it is hard but honestly it’s only as hard as you make it. You may be hurt but it’s only temporary believe me.

Be totally honest as you may need more time off going on forward.

You won't get fired.

Can you ring or facetime them? You def need support right now.

Sorry you are going through this xx

I think honesty will do you well here, any decent person will want you to take some time off.

Sending you hugs and prayers that you will get through this, one day at a time and think honestly is best policy and maybe work will be the needed distraction as you have to give it your all while you are there.

It’s difficult and will take time, have overcome a lot as have others and you will too.

when you feel little bit better try and take up a hobby to meet new people friendship groups.

🥰

Your employer has a duty of care to you my lovely. You aren't ok to be in an office tomorrow after the terrible shock you have just had. You need to be dealing with the immediate issue of getting some RL support, putting one foot in front of another, feeding yourself, surviving. Sending love and light. Posters here will provide great support too - many of us have been where you are now. You WILL get through this xxx

OP the way you say 'here' in second post makes it sound like you have followed your husband somewhere. If that's the case, what a dick move to let you do that and then walk out.

Invent a stomach bug or just say family crisis, whichever works for you. And start planning a life in a place where you have friends and want to be.

It's horrible, but you will get through it.

@Phantosmia I agree with a pp who said if you can call or facetime family or a friend please do x

You have all of us here, keep posting if it helps.

Some workplaces have a counselling/advice helpline, could be worth seeing if this is on offer.

It's getting through these first days which seems impossible, but you can do it, then it starts to get better. Look after your basic needs, eat, try to sleep, you'll come through it x