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Do your dc have your accent?

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Whatsthepoint1234 · 22/08/2023 13:57

I was having this conversation with a colleague earlier about our regional accents and it made me think about whether children take more of their parents accent or their peers accent. My area has a fairly distinctive accent, lots of the people from where we live have never lived anywhere else! Pretty much all the local older generation I meet at work have quite a ‘broad’ version of this accent however both my sons sets of friends have standard southern accents. My husband is from the same region and grew up about 1.5 hours away and both his parents are Asian but he grew up in a very mc white area and mainly socialised with white British people, he sounds RP to me with a slight Asian tint. I grew up abroad have the accent of my native country (came for university). Both my dc get asked where they are from as they pronounce some words ‘funny’ but sound mostly British. What accent do your dc have, is it more regional or more like yours?

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Whatsthepoint1234 · 22/08/2023 23:32

@FettleOfKish it’s interesting, kids seem to use the accent they learnt the word in. We use a lot of Yiddisms in our house and both my sons say words like ‘spiel’ in the most Yiddish accent. When ds2 uses his random Norfolk dialect words he says them in a strong Norfolk accent despite whenever he says anything else he sounds like the queen with a slight Asian tint to her accent!

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DinnaeFashYersel · 22/08/2023 23:39

My kids have the local Scottish accent.

I have a different Scottish accent.

DH has an accent.

FettleOfKish · 23/08/2023 00:03

Not just kids I think @Whatsthepoint1234, I once worked with a Portuguese lady who spoke English in a broad Brummie accent, and a Brazilian friend speaks English in a notable American accent as he learned most from films & TV, despite living in the UK as a teen.

Accents are fascinating!

Whatsthepoint1234 · 23/08/2023 00:05

FettleOfKish · 23/08/2023 00:03

Not just kids I think @Whatsthepoint1234, I once worked with a Portuguese lady who spoke English in a broad Brummie accent, and a Brazilian friend speaks English in a notable American accent as he learned most from films & TV, despite living in the UK as a teen.

Accents are fascinating!

That’s interesting lots of people from my country sound American when they speak English because lots of our resources are American ones!!

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WaterWipee · 23/08/2023 05:40

I'm from London but live in a part of the NE where many people have a southern accent so our children DD3and DS5 both sound like us.

TheGriffle · 23/08/2023 08:30

My parents are from Norfolk and I lived there until I was 4 then we moved to Yorkshire. I have a Yorkshire accent but with a few words thrown in to match my parents accent so ‘Barth’ ‘grarse’ ‘carstle’. More pronounced when I’m with them.

My friend grew up in Yorkshire but has Scottish parents, she could switch effortlessly between a full on Scottish accent and her Yorkshire accent.

My parents friends, ones Irish and ones from Yorkshire, moved to America before they had kids and their 2 children sound American.

Houseneedsalift · 23/08/2023 08:33

wannabetraveler · 22/08/2023 23:18

I am from the northwest and had a very broad accent when I was younger. I left at 18 and moved to the USA 10 years later, so my accent is "mildly" northern but still unmistakably English. My kids' accents are as American as apple pie (like my DH and everyone else here) but local friends and acquaintances tell me they can hear a British twang in them. I don't hear it at all.

We were recently back in the UK and had some funny looks in my home town when my kids were talking - not many Americans there! - and I responded like a local 😂

My friend is like this - I definitely hear the English twang in the kids.

Tomikka · 23/08/2023 08:35

CeriB82 · 22/08/2023 23:11

Do you know what fascinates me? All these accents. How do they start? Why do they deve.

please, if there’s any expert ms out there, do explain!

This is better described in the opposite manner, rather than how different accents develop it’s a question of how they merge, and the adjacent question of dialects and language.

First there is the need to communicate, the most basic of verbal communication is different types of sounds, with a matter of urgency, calming etc. Then refine some of those sounds into a specific meaning - giving words

These words are used by particular individuals as a group, they are spoken in a particular way
You have an initial language and accent - an isolated group just has their own unique language and accent, some of the same or similar words develop independently among different communities if they mimic what they describe

Small groups or individuals go further out from their immediate surroundings and meet others, they merge together their words and phrasing which results in some variation - they may retain a slightly specific local accent and dialect whilst slightly adjusting accent and adopting words from the others.

These collectively build up to an overarching language and supposedly a generic accent.
An outsider can fail to ‘hear’ regional accents and ‘they all sound the same’

Historically this happened on a local & regional basis, with crossovers only among those who travel. You get social mobility as well, and those who gain access to court so non-regional accents and dialects occur

But when recordings, film etc became possible the languages / accents would come to you rather than you going away to encounter them.
Those making recordings then want to be understood everywhere so ‘BBC English’ occurs with slowly spoken pronunciation as opposed to day to day discussion which is often fast and in a dialect / accent

Extend that to global communication and you get the directions of generalised ‘international’ accents and also emulation of somewhere else’s local accent

The internet & US television get blamed for this today, but the same applied when Hollywood first developed talking movies

Notmytotoro · 23/08/2023 08:38

yes, I'm east european and my children have british accent when speaking English. They have my regional accent from my home country when speaking my language.

RandomUsernameHere · 23/08/2023 08:54

In my experience DC get more of their accent from their peers than their parents, eg families with two American parents and the DC go to a British school and have more of a British accent than American.

FreshStart12345 · 23/08/2023 09:55

My dmum is from the north east (geordie) and my ddad is from Ireland, yet I've been raised in the SE. To me it's a barth, to them it's a baff. I have a typical mc southern accent (with maybe the odd twang when saying thirty)

Notlostjustexploring · 23/08/2023 10:22

ElthamLemur · 22/08/2023 22:40

Same. I recently had a ten minute argument with my 6 year-old about the correct pronunciation of “drawer” (he started it by telling me that I was saying it wrong…)

I get a lot of, "but I want to pronounce it like this!".

And yes, biggest pet peeve is the extra "r"s that crop up. I'm sorry sunshine, but "path", and "saw" do not have "r"s in them...

Hopefully they'll end up with a nice pseudo-Received Pronunciation accent and can be universally understood, but because they're exposed to lots of different UK accents they'll also understand everyone.

But yes, I do find it intensely weird that my kids have a different accent to me.

ElthamLemur · 23/08/2023 10:43

Notlostjustexploring · 23/08/2023 10:22

I get a lot of, "but I want to pronounce it like this!".

And yes, biggest pet peeve is the extra "r"s that crop up. I'm sorry sunshine, but "path", and "saw" do not have "r"s in them...

Hopefully they'll end up with a nice pseudo-Received Pronunciation accent and can be universally understood, but because they're exposed to lots of different UK accents they'll also understand everyone.

But yes, I do find it intensely weird that my kids have a different accent to me.

”Draw-ring” is a hard no from me!

To be honest, I will reluctantly allow him to use whatever accent he chooses (apart from the above) but there is no way he’s going to be allowed to start correcting me!

FairyBreadQueen · 23/08/2023 10:47

Nope.

I am Australian and we live in the UK.

Both Dcs have a very lovely English accent. My Australian family find it quite delightful; 'They sound so ENGLISH!!!' they exclaim!

Equally both of them can do really respectable Aussie accents thanks to watching Crocodile Dundee and kath and Kim. It tickles me immensely when they 'do Australian'.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 23/08/2023 10:53

And yes, biggest pet peeve is the extra "r"s that crop up. I'm sorry sunshine, but "path", and "saw" do not have "r"s in them...

They actually say them with an audible 'r' sound? Or did you mean that they say them with a long 'ah'?

ShowOfHands · 23/08/2023 11:24

Notlostjustexploring · 23/08/2023 10:22

I get a lot of, "but I want to pronounce it like this!".

And yes, biggest pet peeve is the extra "r"s that crop up. I'm sorry sunshine, but "path", and "saw" do not have "r"s in them...

Hopefully they'll end up with a nice pseudo-Received Pronunciation accent and can be universally understood, but because they're exposed to lots of different UK accents they'll also understand everyone.

But yes, I do find it intensely weird that my kids have a different accent to me.

I'm sorry sunshine, but non rhotic accents exist and they are partly characterised by a long a sound.

Lampzade · 23/08/2023 13:57

FettleOfKish · 23/08/2023 00:03

Not just kids I think @Whatsthepoint1234, I once worked with a Portuguese lady who spoke English in a broad Brummie accent, and a Brazilian friend speaks English in a notable American accent as he learned most from films & TV, despite living in the UK as a teen.

Accents are fascinating!

I once met a Malaysian lady who spoke English with a mild Nigerian accent because many of her friends were Nigerian.

3sthemagicnumber · 23/08/2023 14:39

Not really. I grew up in Yorkshire, but to Home Counties parents (who had northern/Scottish/Irish parents). I was teased at school for being posh - I say 'barth/carstle' etc. My younger sister had, and retains, a definite Yorkshire accent though. Older sister speaks like me.

I live in SW England now. No one ever knows I'm from the north, unless I tell them, but I think I can hear it in my recorded voice. My kids don't have much of an accent - a few SW-sounding vowels. I love hearing children with Yorkshire accents, and rather wish my kids had grown up with it. My son can do an excellent Yorkshire accent though, so that's something.

Qilin · 23/08/2023 15:01

DD's accent is far less obvious then mine or dh's.
None of us are overly broad, but DD's is a lot less so - grew up in an area where it's less broad and went to a primary school which had quite a mix of pupil accents, and some rather 'posh' sounding teachers so I suspect that played a part too.

My nephew has a different accent to his mum now he's coming to the end of primary, though it isn't as strong as his dad's accent. they live where his dad grew up, rather than where mum did.

Same for my nieces. They have totally different accents from either parent.

ProfYaffle · 23/08/2023 15:10

Whatsthepoint1234 · 22/08/2023 20:00

I struggle to understand the locals in Norwich and I’ve lived in Norfolk 7 years! Dh, the boys and I went to Sheringham beach a couple of weeks past and ds2 was our translator! Even ds1 and dh who grew up in East Anglia couldn’t follow. Ds2 does amuse me as he calls snails ‘dodiman’ and when he gets cross with his brother he calls him a ‘mawther’ which I assume he’s picked up at school (rural village primary). It’s quite cute really - I’m just waiting to be called Bor! I get called a ‘forriner’ frequently in Norwich…

Dh isn't like that. His parents were from London and he spent a few years in Essex as a kid so he has a generic southern accent. I've worked in Norwich for the past 20 years or so and never really come across anyone with an accent strong enough to be misunderstood. I get the impression Norfolk accents are dying out tbh.

wannabetraveler · 23/08/2023 15:59

Houseneedsalift · 23/08/2023 08:33

My friend is like this - I definitely hear the English twang in the kids.

I really wish my kids sounded my English - especially as I've noticed that my accent affords me more respect/interest over here than it ever did in the UK.

Whatsthepoint1234 · 23/08/2023 16:19

ProfYaffle · 23/08/2023 15:10

Dh isn't like that. His parents were from London and he spent a few years in Essex as a kid so he has a generic southern accent. I've worked in Norwich for the past 20 years or so and never really come across anyone with an accent strong enough to be misunderstood. I get the impression Norfolk accents are dying out tbh.

I work with the older generation as a foreigner - so I do struggle with dialect. I’m in North Norfolk as well. In the arse end of nowhere! Dh is from Cambridge and spoke a different language at home so it’s probably slightly different for us. If you are ‘foreign’ accents are harder to understand. I had similar when I went to Bridgwater in Somerset, I couldn’t get what they were saying so it might be a me problem.

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BMrs · 23/08/2023 22:40

Both em and DH very northern but our DC brought up in a different area. They both sounds quite posh though and don't have our (now) regional accent. I think it's because when I was teaching them to speak I pronounced everything correctly and now they talk just like that despite my accent being strong day to day.

It's funny when they get together with their cousins!

Mindovermatter247 · 23/08/2023 22:46

I’m from london, DS is from london, dd is from sussex but we all sound the same. DP is from midlands and although it’s not as strong as it once was he still sound different to us. Round here is basically london by the sea so no change.
my dbs and dsis were born in midlands and they have the accents but my dad and step mum are from london.

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 23/08/2023 23:18

I’m from the NW, lived in the SW for 10 years and had 3 northern talking children with me. They started talking with southern accents within about 3 weeks. Moved back up about 6 years ago with 4 southern speaking children. Eldest now sounds very northern. Other 3 sound like “posh northeners”. Randomly… child 5, who was born here, with two broad northern parents…. Sounds southern lol!! My eldest 3 don’t even live at home anymore, so hasn’t picked it from them. After too much YouTube he becomes a bit American though…. Think diapers, trash cans, soda etc… all with an American/sw/NW twang. It’s quite cute!

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