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Kind of just need to put this out there

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BritishSummer23 · 22/08/2023 13:11

I got a message from my ex at the weekend. Totally unexpected. Been split up 3.5 years. Asking how I was. We chatted a bit and then he said he missed me and would I meet up. I agreed to. I don't completely know why. I guess I wanted to see him, he's a lovely person and I always felt a bit sad that things didn't work between us. But I know I wasn't happy by the end which is why I ended it. I still care about him and I think I always will. We met for a couple of hours and caught up on life but I just feel so weird now.

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BritishSummer23 · 22/08/2023 13:13

I'm wondering if we could be friends but I've never managed to be friends with an ex and I don't know if it ever really works. I'd love to have him in my life but I don't know in what capacity. I just feel completely lost.

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whatwhatinthebutt · 22/08/2023 13:13

Are you meeting again?

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BritishSummer23 · 22/08/2023 13:15

I don't know

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Ostryga · 22/08/2023 13:16

Why did you meet up? What’s the point? It’s been years, best thing for this kind of stuff is to leave the past in the past. No point working yourself up over something that has ended. You just put yourself back 3.5 years!

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BritishSummer23 · 22/08/2023 13:20

Yeah you're probably right. I feel a bit shit now.

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whatwhatinthebutt · 22/08/2023 13:24

Do you feel shit because you kind of came to his beckon, met on his whim, made yourself available with some romantic notion in your head, let him see you, not make a further date, then disappear into the wind?

Now you feel like he may have gone 'okay cool seen her now, time to get on with my life' and you're left feeling a bit like you were maybe a bit silly believing you were special enough that he would see you and go 'I love you' upon doing so?

Helpmepleaseimbusy · 22/08/2023 13:25

Honestly if you had someone you were really into you wouldn't even be thinking about him or caring

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BritishSummer23 · 22/08/2023 13:38

whatwhatinthebutt · 22/08/2023 13:24

Do you feel shit because you kind of came to his beckon, met on his whim, made yourself available with some romantic notion in your head, let him see you, not make a further date, then disappear into the wind?

Now you feel like he may have gone 'okay cool seen her now, time to get on with my life' and you're left feeling a bit like you were maybe a bit silly believing you were special enough that he would see you and go 'I love you' upon doing so?

I think I feel shit because I probably should have thought a bit more about whether it was a good idea to meet instead of just kind of deciding on a whim and thought more about what kind of implications it might have, how it might make us both feel. And really, should have just left this all in the past. I suppose I felt like I would feel bad saying no to him. I don't really know why.

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