Mum is having surgery tomorrow and I'm a bit nervous

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Just looking for a handhold please. My DP left for work this morning for a month so I'm home alone with my thoughts and worries

Mum is having surgery tomorrow morning(she's 50). From googling I think it's called Salpingectomy. They're taking away her fallopian tubes and uterus. Leaving her womb.
She's so scared. This has all happened really fast since they scanned her and saw something 5cm that needs to come out and be tested. They used the word tumour in her consult and now her mind is going crazy with cancer worries

She phoned me on Fri just to let me know about the in death policy she has in work that I will get if anything goes wrong

I just want her to take this one step at a time. And just get through nerves for the op then battle worrying about what they've found

Not sure what I am looking for. I just love my mum so much I couldn't get through life without her. I want whatever they're taking out to be benign. I don't want her to be in the excruciating pain she's been told she will be in. I hope she gets some sleep tonight but I doubt it. I wish I was with her. I hope I'm a good help taking care of her. Fuck
Sorry I'm just night rambling. Thanks if anyone reads this

I’m sorry, here for handhold.

Sending your Mum and you strength and good wishes during such a challenging time.

Really hope it all goes as smoothly as possible.

Totally understandable that the nerves are setting in, so don't ever feel the need to "apologise for night rambling" on MN.
Far better to do precisely that, in fact.

Keep posting whenever it helps you.

I had that done as day surgery, went in at 5.00pm, went to theatre at 7.00pm, was back on the ward by 8.30pm & on my way home by 10.00pm. I had mine done keyhole. Other than feeling a bit bloated, I felt fine, I was up & dressed the next day & lazed around watching television. Like all my keyhole ops I have had worse visits to the dentist. If you want to get anything for your mum, get her some Rennie Deflatine, peppermint oil capsules, peppermint tea & arnica tablets. The hospital may send her home with painkillers, but it wouldn't hurt to get some paracetamol & Ibuprofen to have in if needed.

I wasn't in any real pain, just a feeling of trapped wind, the peppermint stuff & Rennie Deflatine will sort that.

Thank you you so much @Nat6999 I will pick these up for her xxx

Hi @Nat6999 sorry to bother you
Was wondering about your experience after your operation. Did you get a CT scan?

Today a letter came in the post with an app for scan on the 4th. Mum hasn't been able to speak to them as the letter came late. She says nobody told her to expect a CT letter and doesn't think it's standard procedure

I had it in my head that's what they do after removing things, is they look to see that they got it all?

X

No I didn't have a scan, I had the operation & nothing else, the only scan I had was an ultrasound & that was before my operation.