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Creepy Man on the bus....

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WaitingforSummer77 · 21/08/2023 01:53

Today, like many other days, I got a bus. Some strange man got onto the bus a few stops on and sat in the seat infront of mine. He then turned around and started talking to me. He asked me many personal questions about my life, while moving his eyes very obviously down to my chest...then back to my face....then back to staring at my chest. I was dressed in jeans and T-shirt, so nothing outlandish that may explain his behaviour. I felt extremely uncomfortable but due to circumstances I didn't want to make a scene. So I answered his questions with false information (....said im married etc) even though I'm not) He asked me to sit next to him /asked if he could sit next to me (I said no). Asked if we could meet up again. He was clearly a very creepy guy. I got the impression he probably travels on the bus all day harassing women. He got off the bus at the stop I wanted to get off at ....so I stayed on the bus, and waited until the next stop, because I was afraid he would follow me, so I had to walk further to my destination.

Just very annoying and I wanted to vent.

No hate please!!

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mumtoboys12 · 21/08/2023 01:56

Ewww he sounds gross. As long as you're ok that's the main thing xxx

WaitingforSummer77 · 21/08/2023 02:01

Yeah I'm okay. It's just annoying that we can't carry on with our everyday lives, without having to deal with this grimness. I wish I had told him to get lost and leave me alone, but I was travelling with an older relative (who was on a different seat), and I didn't want to alarm/upset my relative if that caused a scene. So I just endured it

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Liveanlearn · 21/08/2023 02:03

Sounds like a creep and like PP I'm glad you're okay. Some people really take advantage of the fact that people don't want to make a scene and if you had would probably give it the, 'I was only being friendly.' line. Glad you trusted your instincts and stayed safe.

WaitingforSummer77 · 21/08/2023 02:11

@Liveanlearn thank you

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FarEast · 21/08/2023 11:01

Next time, don’t engage. Still and go back to your book or phone or looking out of the window. He has no right to your attention.

It’s horrible isn’t it? And YANBU

Suusue · 27/10/2023 14:51

Absolute creep. What on earth is wrong with men? Can't go for a walk can't get on a bus can't get on the tube. It's just awful. I really feel for young women these days. and......it wouldn't matter what you were wearing. You wear what you want!

Mumaway · 27/10/2023 15:00

That sounds awful.
I have girls, and I am always trying to instill in them that they owe no-one 'comfort' when they are being made to feel uncomfortable. They can walk away, raise their voice and call people out who are being creepy- they are at fault and you don't need to be polite

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 27/10/2023 15:02

Glad you are OK OP. These guys are so annoying, like they have the right to your time and that you must want to talk to them back.

If I get this I just get up and get off at the next stop however I see you were with a relative so not useful. Usually I'm a tube user so I simply move carriages but with a bus you are rather limited!

MidnightOnceMore · 27/10/2023 15:08

I'm sorry you were subjected to this.

I find using 'I' statements has helped me, such as 'I don't want to talk thank you' 'I'd like to be left alone'.

Also you can walk away.

But it is really hard. And shit. And depressing.

Startyabastard · 27/10/2023 15:15

It's vile.
I had a man look up my skirt on a bus once. I was in the middle seat at the back and he walked into the aisle and very obviously do that.
I wish I had reported it.
There has to be some change!!!!!

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