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Webcam Modelling - would you ?

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LanaL · 20/08/2023 18:55

No real point to this post but just a discussion really!
Would you ever consider webcam work , if you were really struggling ?
I have delved into a rabbit hole on tik tok hearing about insane earnings . I’m in a very very tight financial spot right now and kind of wished I was able to do it when I saw it. Now , it’s not something I could ever do due to my career , it would be career ending and then I would be in an even worse situation and my home life just wouldn’t allow me to be able to either , so this isn’t a post to get reassurance and go ahead and do it , I absolutely can’t and won’t but I do think if things were different I would certainly consider it.

There are a lot of views out there saying that women are degrading themselves and it would be soul destroying but then I think - isn’t it empowering? If you feel fine doing it , it’s your body and let’s face it women get a lot of unwanted attention , wolf whistling, inappropriate comments so why should they feel bad about marketing their body for their own benefit ? I think the only thing I would feel bad about that could put me off even if my situation was different would be that married men may be visiting the sites and as a woman I wouldn’t want to play a part in that betrayal of another woman .

Just curious of your opinions ! Spending a lot of time in hospital right now and scouring Mumsnets threads is keeping me sane !

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Seaswimmingforthesoul · 20/08/2023 19:05

No, I wouldn't. I couldn't cope with the thought of people seeing me/finding out or the fact that one day my children might know about it. I'd also never do that to my DH.
I don't particularly have an issue with it for other people, but it's just so far from anything I would ever consider for myself.

teenysaladandsniffofarose · 20/08/2023 19:27

Absolutely not. I'd never risk someone I know finding out, I'd feel so ashamed.

Plus I don't think many people would want to pay to see my post breast feeding boobs 😂😂

floraswiltingflower · 20/08/2023 19:32

Darling, brace yourself for a bitter truth: You won't become a moneymaker, but you'll definitely be sacrificing your soul. It's probably a smarter move to borrow some cash and enroll in an eyelash extension course or embark on your own cupcake venture than to try and make money naked online. By the way, did you know that only the top 1% of creators manage to snatch a whopping 33% of the income? Your likely fate? Strutting your stuff online for pervy viewers, earning a measly pound or two. Don't do it to yourself you are better then that.

SkiesOfMelon · 20/08/2023 19:36

I don't think showing my fanny to strangers online and receiving enough to buy me a load of bread is empowering but each to their own. I feel terribly for prostitutes.

SkiesOfMelon · 20/08/2023 19:36

Loaf* got a feeling it wouldn't even be a load of bread.

blondielocks1 · 20/08/2023 19:40

No way Jose. My friend is on DLA and was struggling to get by and so desperate she was psyching herself up to give webcamming a go and was crying about it. She didn't thankfully and is in a much better place but the same can't be said for everyone considering prostitutikn of some form or another. Not empowerment to me more like rock bottom.

lettucebeginbuttering · 20/08/2023 19:43

Give it a go and report back to us whether you find it empowering or not. My friend did stripping and I was sat at the bar on one occasion waiting for her to finish so I could take her home and a bunch of young lads came in and called her fat, ugly, all sorts. You'll be degraded, treated like a skin suit.

InvertedSugarMamma · 20/08/2023 19:49

I wouldn't, HOWEVER I have attempted selling foot pics and got absolutely no where🤣. It's obviously much safer than in person sex work and I have no qualms with anyone who does it. The only people that I know who have tried it personally are mates of my sisters who does it with her partner! Not for me no way and nooo one would want to see me shake my mum bod anyway 😂jiggle jiggle

dontgobaconmyheart · 20/08/2023 19:51

It's for each person to decide what is genuinely empowering for them, as long as they're capable of understanding the potential pitfalls, safety issues and are happy with their own understanding of their own politics on the issue. If a person is obliged to do it as the only route to keep their head above water financially then (to me) there's an obvious vulnerability there that creates a very different situation. If you don't need to do it but want to or the income is an extra perk, versus a scenario where food needs to be put on a table and that trumps how someone truly feels about that level of exposure. I'd never look down on someone that did it, regardless of their rationale.

It wouldn't be for me and i hope i never have to meaningfully consider doing it, I don't even want my picture taken and put online at a family bbq, I'm an introvert with privacy issues.

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LanaL · 20/08/2023 19:56

floraswiltingflower · 20/08/2023 19:32

Darling, brace yourself for a bitter truth: You won't become a moneymaker, but you'll definitely be sacrificing your soul. It's probably a smarter move to borrow some cash and enroll in an eyelash extension course or embark on your own cupcake venture than to try and make money naked online. By the way, did you know that only the top 1% of creators manage to snatch a whopping 33% of the income? Your likely fate? Strutting your stuff online for pervy viewers, earning a measly pound or two. Don't do it to yourself you are better then that.

Oh I’m not doing it , 100% , no way I would risk my job amongst lots of other reasons !

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LanaL · 20/08/2023 19:58

I tried the foot pic thing once too 🤣 nothing ! It was all the rage at one point and I thought well that’s anonymous why not but alas I did not become a millionaire!

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Coffeaddict · 20/08/2023 19:59

No way if my real job found out I would be fired.

I also wouldn't want my kids to ever see me like that

socialdilemmawhattodo · 20/08/2023 19:59

Eastenders are running a current storyline with one of their main female characters - Stacey - on this type of decision. I am not sure the stalking is necessarily associated. Although clearly that happens in many other life situations. But the story shows the factors that cause the financial issues, the judgements from friends, b/fs etc. Eastenders are trying to be responsible and haven't glamorised it - perhaps worth a quick catch up.

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LanaL · 20/08/2023 19:59

Noooo , I’m not doing it ! Just a post for discussion . If things were different - I wasn’t in the job I am , didn’t have kids so could actually physically do it at home etc then I would give it a go if I was desperate for cash but certainly not something I will ever be doing x

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Emma291 · 21/10/2023 19:32

Hi, not sure if the thread is dead but I am too tired to start a fresh one today, it's been a long day. I have a similar problem to the start of this thread but I am not a webcam model. The past 5 years I have been working as a communications officer and for the last 2 years I have been working on the side doing life modelling (it's not as bad as it sounds) a long story.

Everything has been fine and I keep it mostly to myself except for a few work friends, I figure they don't need to know, but I am not ashamed of it I just keep it to myself as people just assume I am a stripper or something. Over the time I have built a good relationship with the people in the arts centre and I don't feel embarrassed at all anymore and it tops up my wage a little, and at the same time doing some good as the centre is aimed at people on low income or ex offenders etc to have a clean start.

The past Tuesday I was told to go and speak to my manager, where I was told that my other job had been brought to their attention and why I had not informed them of this. I just explained I never found it relevant, but they were pretty nasty about it, and basically told me to stop quit it or they would take further action.

They went on to tell me it was inappropriate if a client were to see me etc, although this is almost impossible. There is a little bit more to add but that's the gist of it. I was wondering if anyone would know if you can be dismissed for this. I have to be very careful not to rock the boat any more. Besides this I have always had a great work relationship.

I have asked this in a couple of other forums today, but I am not getting any serious answers, just requests from men. It was amusing at the start but it's just getting old now.

Thanks for reading all of that wall, it's been on my mind the past days, any help would be grateful.

Gunpowder · 21/10/2023 19:36

I think I would start a new thread Emma as lots of people will just reply to the original OP. I think life modelling is completely different from cam work and it’s outrageous that your manager has said it’s inappropriate. If you are in a union I would speak to them about it X

Emma291 · 21/10/2023 19:44

Thank you, I was just a bit worried how to proceed, I currently live alone so I am trying to get on the housing ladder, hence why I was working two jobs.

I hope work will calm down a little when they process it. My friend started me with it, but she now lives with her husband. Thanks for the kind words some people made me feel like a prostitute today, and it's really not like that.

I don't have kids yet and I am young so I thought why not. Enjoy your weekend x

Emma291 · 21/10/2023 19:45

I will start a thread tomorrow x

DeeCeeCherry · 21/10/2023 19:50

No because I couldnt be asked to get dressed up put on makeup & have to be in the 'mode' for hours on end. Im too lazy for all that. Im not judging women who do it though, theyre doing what it takes to make ends meet. I dont know their reasons or circumstances and even if I did, it's their choice doesnt have to be mine

WalkingThroughTreacle · 21/10/2023 19:54

Comparing life modelling for genuine artists to cam porn is like comparing a pharmacist to a drug dealer.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 21/10/2023 19:56

I don't think I would as it seems like really hard and draining work and I don't think I'd enjoy it - I think you have to put a lot of time and effort in to make Money.
Lalalaletmeexplain covered this in a recent podcast. There is also the iPlayer series 'mood' have you seen it op?

WhateverMate · 21/10/2023 20:06

Being some men's wank fodder is never empowering.

That's just perpetuating a myth put out there by men making money from 'empowered' women.

Emma291 · 21/10/2023 20:28

It was terrifying the first time or two, now I just switch my mind off. Some weeks are obviously more difficult than others, but it's very draining sometimes especially on the top of a 9-5.

My friends don't think about it any more and family is supportive if a little shocked at first. It's mostly older people, sometimes I get asked by younger people and they can get a bit stupid but really no issues.

Thanks all for the reply's I feel a little better. I will look for replies from time to time but I feel exhausted today.

PumkinPetra · 21/10/2023 20:29

I see it as virtual prostitution except if you did prostitution old school style eg in person, only you would know. If youre doing it online its going to be there forever, if you get married have kids or get a respectable job, it will all pose a risk to being found out. Who you are at 21 vs who you are at 41, 61 etc are completely different people.

PumkinPetra · 21/10/2023 20:33

Emma291 · 21/10/2023 19:32

Hi, not sure if the thread is dead but I am too tired to start a fresh one today, it's been a long day. I have a similar problem to the start of this thread but I am not a webcam model. The past 5 years I have been working as a communications officer and for the last 2 years I have been working on the side doing life modelling (it's not as bad as it sounds) a long story.

Everything has been fine and I keep it mostly to myself except for a few work friends, I figure they don't need to know, but I am not ashamed of it I just keep it to myself as people just assume I am a stripper or something. Over the time I have built a good relationship with the people in the arts centre and I don't feel embarrassed at all anymore and it tops up my wage a little, and at the same time doing some good as the centre is aimed at people on low income or ex offenders etc to have a clean start.

The past Tuesday I was told to go and speak to my manager, where I was told that my other job had been brought to their attention and why I had not informed them of this. I just explained I never found it relevant, but they were pretty nasty about it, and basically told me to stop quit it or they would take further action.

They went on to tell me it was inappropriate if a client were to see me etc, although this is almost impossible. There is a little bit more to add but that's the gist of it. I was wondering if anyone would know if you can be dismissed for this. I have to be very careful not to rock the boat any more. Besides this I have always had a great work relationship.

I have asked this in a couple of other forums today, but I am not getting any serious answers, just requests from men. It was amusing at the start but it's just getting old now.

Thanks for reading all of that wall, it's been on my mind the past days, any help would be grateful.

Sorry crossed thread. What does your work contract say with regards to a second job?