Have you ever met someone and as time has gone on you have ignored your instincts about them. Then later looked back and thought wtf was I thinking ?
I'm just trying to get my head around a situation like this. I need to be vague as I know the person concerned is on here. We met via DCs school around 10 years ago. We were quite close at one point and saw each other regularly but I feel like I've woken up to them and have reduced contact. They are just so incredibly selfish and weirdly unaware of social norms. Favours never returned , never instigating or arranging contact (but happy to join anything we arrange ) , falling out with people and few friends and odd ideas about things.
I look back now and can see that all along I had a niggling doubt about their behaviour , but I made excuses for them at the time. I feel like I've woken up.
Ita a lesson learned for me to make sure that next time I listen to that voice.