Hi I just wanted to post a little update/reflection. Some people may know I posted a few weeks or so ago about my 16 year old son becoming violent and aggressive towards me and had been going on a long time. I couldn't take it anymore and told him he had to leave. Social services became involved to support keeping ds at home. Personally I have found them of no help what so ever and have actually caused more stress treading around the real issues and intervering in stuff they don't need etc . Anyway I reported to the manger a few times because I had enough. Manager had already said there was no concerns for my other children. And she said they do not need to be on a CIN plan so its now been agreed my younger 3 have been removed. But my 16 year old will stay on the CIN plan. And still work with the social worker. I'm hoping now that it's just for DS on the CIN plan they will now concentrate on his needs.
In general terms Ds is still hard work. And he still makes me feel on edge (but) it has got better and there have been some positive times and moments of kindness. Him and my 13 year old even play xbox together. And today him and 3 other siblings and gs were in the pool for 3hrs. Not one single fall out .
The biggest one is ds went with his CAMHS worker to an educational/course place and he's applied for a construction course that starts in September. So I'm really hoping he will do it. And he finds something that drives him I think he truly needs this.