On the back of a lot of threads about shared finances, I just wanted to see how you think finances should work when you are married but there are no children involved that you have together.
Me and my partner are getting married next year. He has two children from a past marriage who live with us 50% of the time. We don't plan on having children together (my choice).
He earns more than I do but we split the most of the bills and mortgage 50/50. He then pays the council tax, does most of our food shops and always picks up the bill when we go out for lunch/dinner, will pay 70% of holidays etc, so even though he earns more than me I'm not too bothered that we go 50/50 with bills and mortgage.
I see so many women on here say how families should share finances so you have the same at the end of the each month etc, but the only shared account is our wedding account which we both put the same amout into each month. TBH as we won't be having kids I think this will still work best for me after we get married. 80% of the food we buy, for example, his kids eat, so I think I would feel a bit annoyed if that shop came out of an account I'd put money into each month if I'm barely eating any of the food, if that makes sense.
What do people think? Does anyone else here have experience of sharing finances when there are stepchildren involved? My partner bares all the expenses for his children but I obviously have some extra costs due to splitting bills which are higher when they stay with us, and also we split the mortgage but I can't actually use two of the bedrooms in our house as they are the boys rooms.
TIA!