Help please. TW: domestic violence and financial abuse. Price of coke could explain sum involved?

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Hi all.
NC for this, and sorry to post in 'chat' - this isn't very cheery I'm afraid.
A close family member has been subjected to a horrific situation involving sexual and physical violence. She's now almost extricated herself from it with multi-agency support, but this week she's owned up to accompanying financial abuse far greater in scale than we thought. In all, her ex has managed to get the best part of 10k off her in the past 6 months by a series of threats and intimidation.
She's still reeling from it, says he just spent it all on take-aways and a more lavish lifestyle than he could afford. I suspect a coke habit/buying and dealing?
I don't even know how much coke costs, or what kind of money a serious habit would use up. Could it be in this region? 10k over 6 months seems a lot for cocktails and kebabs, even for a jack-the-lad type in London. (sorry, not trying to make light of it, we're still in shock from this atm)
I know people will ask where she got the money : it was partly an inheritance, partly a scholarship (she's a student) and partly her earnings.

Tbh, you sound very judgmental. The 'accompanying' financial abuse part. Abuse is complicated. Help her get out or f off out of her way.

I just asked my partner about this and he reckons if someone was taking half a gram a day (which is apparently the minimum someone would sell) it would be about £280 a week (£7,280 in six months) - so totally plausible

so coke can cost anything from £60 for a gram to £80, or higher. Often dealers want to only sell in multiples, not one at a time. If living it up, someone could get through several grams in a weekend. Always hangers on around, plus costs of taxis, drinks, clubs etc. £10k easily wasted.

support your loved home, hold them close

Thanks@applesandmares and @Prettypaisleyslippers@Prettypaisleyslippers yeah, that explains a lot thanks for replying. (sorry pretty, don't know why that tagged you twice!)

@Chickenkeev I mean, there's been the best part of a year spent helping her with doctors, and police, helping her to get in touch with an Advance advocate, helping her keep her place on her course, keep her job because it looked to everyone outside she was flakey, when actually, she couldn't turn up as she had a face full of fucking bruises and was too scared, too tired too broken to go out. I've slept on her hall floor in case the cunt comes back in the night, gone round cleaned up, stocked the fridge, mended the broken cupboard doors, disposed of the smashed furniture. I've hugged her when she wants it or just waited outside her bathroom while she sobbed. We've kept communication open when it looked like there was no hope and have been outwardly calm and practical even when screaming inside. FYI, I had noticed it's 'fucking complicated'.

@Chickenkeev how on earth does the OP sound judgemental?

I assumed her wondering about how the abuser could have spent £10k is not judging the victim, it's thinking that if the abuser has a drug habit, if this can be used as further evidence against him to protect the victim in the long term.

Right, fair enough, looked back and didn't see judgemental. Sorry OP.